Is "Are you out of my league?" a good pick up line?

ThrowawayPUA · 2010-11-24T13:06:28+00:00

No.

Pickup lines don't work. This one is especially bad for several reasons:

It immediately makes you a beta. Asking a girl if she is out of your league means she is. An alpha wouldn't ask.
It's a yes/no question, which sucks as an opener because it puts the conversational burden on the person you're asking. Your opener comes to a dead stop until she answers.
You have no good way to respond to either answer.

In a proper opener, you ask a question you don't really need an answer to, like "hey, did you see those two girls fighting outside the bar? They were fighting over some guy...."

2010-11-24T10:13:48+00:00

This seems forced. The target will mostly like be like "Uhhhh, what?".

Herpaderpy · 2010-11-24T12:16:15+00:00

There's no such thing as pickup lines.

psykocrime · 2010-11-24T15:16:00+00:00

Don't use "pickup lines." And, as "pickup lines" go, this is about as bad as they get.

Why is it horrible? For all of the reasons mentioned by ThrowawayPUA, PLUS:

it presupposes that it's possible for a girl to be "out of your league."
it presupposes that she's in a position to evaluate you and to judge her merit relative to yours.
It completely discredits the idea that you are the one who's evaluating her to see if she's good enough for you.

Both of those are bad attitudes to walk around with, so no sense talking in those terms, and reinforcing your own limiting beliefs.

The only time I'd ever mention anything about anybody being "out of somebody's league" would be. A. in connection to some 3rd parties, as part of some game, or B. as a banter line once the conversation is established (and then, I'd reverse it to where she's the one who's out of your league).

Example of (B):

HB: blah, blah, blah.

PUA: Hah... I am so out of your league, but I'll give you a chance to win me over anyway

OR

PUA: Hah... I am so out of your league, but you're really starting to win me over. Can you cook as well?

OR

PUA: Ya know, when I first met you, I thought "I am so out of this girl's league," but now that I've gotten to know you, I see that you're really cool. You can be my new girlfriend, but only on Tuesdays...

etc., etc. Just be careful with that, because if you screw up the delivery it could come across as a fairly harsh neg, and make you look like a self-centered, egotistical asshole. If you say anything like that, make sure the delivery communicates playfulness.

2010-11-24T10:02:55+00:00

How will you respond to "Yes", and "No"?

Barney21 · 2010-11-24T17:45:18+00:00

I would answer this but I'm worried you might be out of my league.

Can we be friends?

ThreeLeftFeet · 2010-11-24T19:02:17+00:00

bad bad bad

UmeaHC · 2010-11-24T22:38:46+00:00

No. For obvious reasons. Is there any POSSIBLE way you can lower your value any more from the 1st second you utter a word to her ?

There probably is, you could say "I'm a loser, and I need validation, and I see you as someone above my level who I would LOVE to have sex with and call my girlfriend because I see you as a higher status person than I am"

My bad, you are already saying that to her.

funkyamish · 2010-11-24T18:43:53+00:00

A better pickup line would "Are you in my league?"

steelcraft · 2010-11-24T15:17:49+00:00

No. Start with "Hey, I'm WTFinducer". You don't need to justify why you're talking to a woman. You're doing it because you're a grown ass man and they seem like someone you would want to know. Grow balls and conquer!

2010-11-24T16:09:56+00:00

"Good pick up line" is an oxymoron. Any girl with half a brain can smell that nonsense from a mile away. Just be natural.

Title	Is "Are you out of my league?" a good pick up line?
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Date	November 24, 2010 9:49 AM UTC (15 years ago)
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