FR - Worst night in ages

2010-12-19T15:54:05+00:00

Hey man, feel ya. Don't go out gaming with 15 guys, especially if you can't lead the pack. The more guys, the harder it is to be alpha. Also, don't go gaming with your really attractive man friend. Physical attraction is relative (just like most everything subjective), it's a losing proposition. Unless, you realize that he just brought some girls into your domain. Make fun of them. YOU ARE THE CATTY COCKBLOCK!

Like these girls need to read some seduction books asap because they would know that singling out the best looking guy is going to make him feel awkward and all the other guys feel awkward as well...don't they hate it when guys do that to them??? most girls are such hypocrites, and they rarely have good game.

Yeah man, you're definitely the catty cockblock.

Now you know what it's like for that bitter ugly girl. Let's take a moment and reflect on her sad life. Now, realize you are a man and this shared moment is a rarity. Also:

yes i'm only 23 and they were probably 25 and not interested in a younger guy...but still.

23 and 25 are indistinguishable. What did you open up with?

Change up scenery, posse, keep fighting the good fight. Everyone has bad days and it will get to you. It's impossible to game in a bad mood, it isn't your fault. The more bad days you have though, the less you get pissed about it, the more carefree you are, the more good days you'll have. Life is beautiful, eat a banana.

TofuTofu · 2010-12-19T20:34:36+00:00

wow tonight was bad. like, so bad I think I'll be staying in the next couple saturdays. i usually have high opinions of myself, and have dated very very attractive girls in the past. been on a bit of a slump recently, and tonight just made things way worse.

NO. STOP RIGHT NOW. Read what you wrote? Is not going out going to get you out of your slump? What you need is one of your boys to take you out for a night on the town. Go to a bar with no intention other than getting plastered. Go to a titty bar and see some boobies. DO SOMETHING, but GET OUT!

i go to a party with loose college friends (we're all 23-24 now). about 15 guys and 5 girls. not a situation to spit game or my reputation would be damaged.

Your game starts the minute you meet up with them. Be extra outgoing and friendly. Become the leader of the pack. The ALPHA MALE. This will help you in all social interactions. If they hate on you because of your sudden newfound confidence and social skills? FUCK THEM. They aren't real friends.

Getting beyond the idea of worrying what your friends and family will think about you is CRITICAL to progressing in the right direction.

Another thing I noticed in this FR... You are putting WAY too much blame on other people. Seriously, you need to look within and realize you are an AWESOME HUMAN BEING and need to let that aspect of your life shine through. I guarantee when those 7 girls came up to talk to your good-looking friend, with enough charisma you would have stolen the spotlight right away from him. It's not THEM, it's YOU.

You have it in you. But stop being negative. No one likes a negative nancy.

I think you are capable of great things if you can get out of that headspace. It's a cancer that is destroying your game.

anonymous_hero · 2010-12-19T15:09:17+00:00

OMFG What kind of a magical land do you live in, where girls actually approach guys!?

2010-12-19T19:00:56+00:00

It sounds like you need to get over all the attention your friend is getting.

ThrowawayPUA · 2010-12-19T11:15:49+00:00

Okay, I don't understand how your reputation could be damaged by gaming in your circumstance. Seems like your social proof got damaged quite enough by not gaming.

Pires007 · 2010-12-19T17:37:50+00:00

Was listening to the Wygant.mp3 that's on the basics of seddit.

If you don't like bars / night clubs, don't go gaming there. It's that simple. I don't like bars / nightclubs, and earlier, when I would go gaming there, I would always end up regretting it.

Like you said, you like going to arts and crafts, then stick with that.

reph · 2010-12-19T15:26:47+00:00

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Fred_Flintstone · 2010-12-19T14:57:23+00:00

You've just had some bad luck. The best professional gamblers have days when they lose money. Seduction is an encrypted form of gambling - skill is involved but there definitely is some luck to it.

Maintain "frame". If you get rejected then laugh it off and show that you don't care that they rejected you.

Maybe go to some different bars/clubs with your friends if the current ones aren't working out. A change of scenery can have pronounced psychological benefits I've found.

Don't stay in the next few weekends sulking - the only way out of this is to keep trying and keep improving.

araratamale · 2010-12-19T15:26:30+00:00

You should have privately talked to one of the girls flirting with your handsome friend, hooked them up, and then your main obstacle would have been out of the way and the girls would find you much more attractive, basically because people tend to judge how handsome other people are via comparison.

How do you hook them up? Tell the girl that you notice that she's interested in your friend, say you'll help her hook them up, then tell you're friend that she's into him and push them off together. If she doesn't go along with this, well then you probably wouldn't have been able to get anywhere with her that night anyway.

chumpta · 2010-12-20T03:55:22+00:00

Like these girls need to read some seduction books asap because they would know that singling out the best looking guy is going to make him feel awkward and all the other guys feel awkward as well...don't they hate it when guys do that to them? most girls are such hypocrites, and they rarely have good game.

dont be mad! plus they dont need as much game as we do theyre the receivers of game not the players.

that is all...just wanted to get these negative feelings out.

protip: try to keep them out. you sound kinda bitter and im sure it's reflected in how you interact with people in some way. take a deep breath and do something you enjoy. remember how that feels.

philosarapter · 2010-12-20T16:12:51+00:00

I don't understand a lot of this post. First you seem really upset about it. Why? Go out with the intention of learning and improving. Its a fact that you aren't going to get laid every time you go out, just accept it. That said, I'm sure there was alot of things that were said or done that you would now do differently. Write these down somewhere and read them back to yourself so you have the benefit of being better next time. Remember, its a numbers game.

That said, if you were 'in a slump' then it most likely radiated outwards from you like a bad smell. If you want a girl to be attracted to you, you have to be beaming with positive energy, fun, interest, and a sense of adventure.

Additionally. Don't put blame on the girls. They don't need "good game", society favors them sexually, they don't need any game. They just need a nice pair of tits and a smile and even then some can get by without any tits at all. No one can "make you feel awkward". Your emotions are your own. Your jealousy at another man's success is what makes you feel awkward because you arent getting the attention you want.

If you wanted to share in success, you should have played wingman for him, and talked very highly about him in front of everyone, told stories and guaranteed him a lay, he could have probably pulled teh whole group of girls to come with you guys and provided for everyone. By not working with him, you showed poor team tactics. If you would have worked together and played off your friends good looks, this would have been an advantage.

So in short, you illustrated:

1) poor frame 2) a bad attitude / poor inner game 3) poor wingman/group tactics

Get out there again and improve where you were lacking. Keep doing it over and over and over until you got it down. Its how you get better.

frogma · 2010-12-21T16:29:24+00:00

You're wrong about the situation with your friend. Guys are much different than girls. Girls can hit on your friend as much as they want, and he'll respond positively because he's a guy and he has a penis. Don't get frustrated by it. I have plenty of friends that are good-looking; I'll either break off from them so girls can't compare me, or I'll make myself stand out by being more awesome. As far as I've seen, night/bar game is infinitely better than day game, simply because you'll be more successful and girls are more open to sex. Just pretend this shit never happened, go out tomorrow like you've always been successful.

zenmagnets · 2010-12-19T11:00:17+00:00

Well thanks for the share. Best of luck to you.

2010-12-19T12:05:44+00:00

... not a situation to spit game or my reputation would be damaged.

Being new to this, I have focused almost exclusively to inner game. I don't see it as something that I 'spit out'. Rather, by building confidence and asserting myself I build attraction. Did you just shut down and not talk to anyone? It sounds like rather than being a confident alpha you may have just shut down (lacking any details on your interaction with the group). No shame in being leader or the pack, usually it does the opposite of harm to your reputation.

Title	FR - Worst night in ages
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	13
Comments	27
Date	December 19, 2010 9:40 AM UTC (15 years ago)
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