Background: This is my first date with same girl from my last FR. So we're talking fifteen minutes of interaction, a little text game, and some arranging-the-date texts. That's it. And as you'll see, that was no obstacle to being hugely successful. Also, of my five previous dates, only the most recent ended with me saying "That was fun. I enjoyed myself." The four previous I drove home frustrated, disappointed and mad at myself. So I thought to myself, "Just because it's been bad before doesn't mean it will be bad this time." You can apply this to anything you do in life.

The date portion was good but not too interesting. I brushed up on "Double Your Dating" the night before and operated with one major mantra in my head the whole time: "Be chivalrous and bust her balls." I opened every door, walked on the street side of the sidewalk and explained why men should do that. And I gave her a ton of shit, for everything. I started off really slow, listening and simply giving positive feedback. As the date went on I loosened up and started ribbing her with a fat grin on my face; I thought her name was Sam when it's in fact Sara, but she thought I was David when I'm Tom. So I gave her a ton of shit for that, that I was a little off but she was way off. (It's funny considering Davids Wygant and DeAngelo are the basis for what little game I have.)

We stopped at a bar for a beer, and this is where I started to slip. My adjacent-barstool game is pretty weak. I started to lose frame, and didn't kino much beyond brushing her arm or leg every now and then. We built good rapport but not much in the way of attraction. Is anyone here good at barstool game? I also don't know how to handle pda's, kissing in public if someone can explain that too. (Pre-emptive thanks!)

The ball started rolling on the drive home. A few months ago someone posted in a FR about playing hand games in the car, that it's more fun/less awkward than simply holding hands, and builds attraction. So I put her hand down on her leg and played the prison knife game, trying to put my finger between hers. She kept cheating and grabbing my finger, it was a lot fun. I park near her apartment and she asks if I'd rather grab another beer at the local pub or her place. (It's a trap!) I think it over a second, "The pub's too far away, let's just go to your place." We sit down on the couch, turn on the tv. (Cash Cab!) I tell her to slide closer to me. Straight out of DYD, I tell her I love cuddling and smelling girls' hair. This was huge, and I kept on it the whole time. After we've been talking for a few minutes I say "We haven't even kissed yet!" with the same delivery as "I left the car lights on!" Perfect stuff, easy kiss. I tell her that was her freebie, and if she wants more she'll have to say please or earn it. (DYD) Tease and denial, the whole time. More smelling of hair while she talks. She says she wants to show me a picture that's in her room, and walks to the stairs. I stay on the couch. "Oh, you want me to go up with you?" (I didn't ask, or do it myself. Win.)

Upstairs she shows me around her room. I tease her about how messy it is. "I wasn't expecting anyone to come in to my room today." (Bingo! She kept saying these kinds of things.) I tell her I just want to cuddle on the bed, smell her hair, maybe a massage. She'll only give me one if I give her one first; I hold out, tell her I'm fine with cuddling all day long. She agrees to give me one first, and starts but doesn't take my shirt off. "No, I want a real one. Take my shirt off." (Got the ball rolling nice and easy.) I give her a nice massage, without taking her shirt off, then go back to cuddling. Every time we go back to cuddling I tease her that she can't kiss me until she says please or earns a freebie, and if she doesn't want to I'm happy just cuddling. (DYD) This drives her nuts; I'm not going to escalate or iniatiate, she has to, it's her idea. The whole time she's saying "I'm the girl, I'm supposed to decide." and I just laugh it off. I hold out til she's itching for it bad, then start kissing her.

Green light Make out, take her shirt off. Grab two handfuls of ass. Then, before I reach resistance: Red light Cuddle, tease, talk, smell her hair. She rubs my beard, I grab her ass. She says "Yeah, the bra and pants weren't coming off." (This is more self-reassurance than statement of limits. And it only applies to this moment. DYD) Green light Kiss her boobs, grind my hips on her crotch. "Hm, why are your nipples hard?" "Well it's not because it's cold in here." (Boom!) Take her bra off. Red light Tease her more. Tell her we don't have to do anything but cuddle, I wasn't expecting this either. Green light More making out, boobs, hip grinding, start kissing my way southward/ Uh oh, not there yet! Red light She says "You must love doggy style the way you grab my ass." (She's thinking about it now!) I tease her that she still has only half a freebie, she asks how she can earn the other half. (It's a trap! She wants to me ask for a bj so she can say no!) I tell her I don't know, she already gave me a massage. Hold out really long this time. Green light She puts her hand down my pants, it's on. I start rubbing her with my hand, then kiss my way south again. She says she's not sure, she hasn't shaved, I say whatever. I grab a condom. She checks herself downstairs, "Yeah, I'm ready for it." (Boom!) Almost into the endzone and... the gun's not loaded. She loses some of her heat, tries to help out. And... the gun misfires. After all that work! Haha! :-)

I relapsed a little into beta mode, almost apologized, then got back into frame. She said "I wasn't expecting that on a first date." "Yeah, me neither. Spur of the moment." "Yeah, right. You kept saying you only wanted to cuddle, and then you kept getting me hot." See? Even when they're on to you a little it works and they enjoy it. (She also said that it's been a while since she got any. So if I had executed it would have been a positive for both of us.)

I enjoyed myself the entire time and so did she. If you don't get hung up on orgasm via intercourse you'll enjoy everything [more]; the date, the cuddling, the massage, simply making out.

Thank you seddit for everything. If not for you guys this date never would have happened, would have been awkward and unfun, and there would have been no postgame, either. You guys helped create a positive for me and Sara. And you've made my life awesome all the time. And thank you for reading my novel of a FR.