Hey Seddit, can you evaluate and critique my text game? Be warned; I am an amateur of the highest degree.

LxRogue · 2011-02-11T22:28:54+00:00

This isn't game. This is scheduling dinner, and you're doing it wrong.

You asked for dinner at 9:30, she says yes, and you change your mind?

SecksualChocolate · 2011-02-11T22:25:16+00:00

Dictate the frame and ignore her shit-testing.

Right after she said "i like thai and 9:30 is fine...but I can't stay up late" you should close the deal if tonight is still good for you. She wants to get together, and she threw out the obligatory shit test to deter you from keeping her out late. Your response was too weak.

You should've done the following:

pushed to meet for dinner that night. She said halfway, but I'd have made it closer to my place. Maybe 3/4 way :)
Changed locations and escalated. Next time, plan a 'move spot' that brings you closer to home. Something like a starbucks for coffee, or better yet a bar for a drink (yay). Remember...always plan logistics ahead of time.

As for what you should do NOW?

You say you're an amateur, but you're not really in that bad of a spot. What makes it sticky is that evil holiday (V-day) is Monday. I'd maybe text her, make fun of her bedtime, and tell her you're busy the next few days but want to meet up after that. How about Wed night?

Remember, texting is secondary communication. Don't do it TOO much unless your text game is tight. And if you are doing it, you should be escalating (making sexual jokes, etc) occasionally in your texts.

ThrowawayPUA · 2011-02-11T22:26:30+00:00

I dunno, I kind of like it. You weren't supplicative so much you would drop everything just to hang with her, you're busy and you're a scarce commodity in high demand. And you can't stay out late with her tonight anyway (false time constraint and disqualifier). This is the sort of text game I like to see, focused around an actual meetup & logistics with only a little flirting. Just don't make yourself too scarce or she'll think you're not interested. Keep forward momentum and meet sooner rather than later.

SpookyKG · 2011-02-11T22:31:19+00:00

Pretty good, try to tell her more than suggest. Make plans... don't get caught up in the negotiations.

cheddarchexmix · 2011-02-11T23:04:29+00:00

Read the text game posts here. Don't ask questions, be more assertive, be more consistent, don't send 2 texts in a row.

fragglemook · 2011-02-11T23:08:56+00:00

Her: Hey I may not be able to get together next weekend. Do you >have plans tonight? Wanna grab some dinner or smtg? Like 7?

Here you are not providing value to her. You are providing a liability. You are asking her to do the thinking for you because you haven't specified where you would like to meet her.

I wont critique the rest of the texts because they are just filler material.

Texting is solely for arranging a meet up, not flirting. The first text you send mentioning meeting up should have the day, time and place otherwise you come across as an indecisive beta.

Lets make it pretty clear here. As an AFC you should be texting something akin to the following:

"Hey Sandra, I'm eating thai at Stink-Woks on wed at 8pm. Join me."

You cannot perform solid game via text. It's all about the meeting.

Listro · 2011-02-11T23:47:35+00:00

Do nothing. Contact her again when you want to setup situations for sexy time. She seems into you and wants your attention

TofuTofu · 2011-02-12T05:09:21+00:00

Uh, she agreed to dinner and you then made her reschedule. Attraction then died and she's going to fuck another guy that night. Good job, bro.

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frogma · 2011-02-11T22:33:54+00:00

You did nothing wrong here. You couldn't do it tonight and you framed it just fine.

Title	Hey Seddit, can you evaluate and critique my text game? Be warned; I am an amateur of the highest degree.
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Date	February 11, 2011 9:58 PM UTC (15 years ago)
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