What are your boundaries?

freew33zy · 2018-09-04T15:56:07+00:00

My boundaries are, generally, that a chick cannot drink or do drugs without me in attendance (exceptions being like alone with her best female friend or with her parents at dinner or something). She cannot flirt with other men or take their phone #s or hang out with them, text or snap them--things like that. She also has to stay in shape, no getting chunky. Otherwise, I don't really give a fuck about anything--things I see talked about here like "disrespect in public" just don't happen to me because I have my bitch on lock.

To enforce these things, use soft nexts and dread. Make your boundaries clear long before you officially date and watch if she follows them while you are not official to her. If she does, feel free to promote. For reference, my current one-way open LTR did cross boundaries a little bit while she was my FWB--I soft next'd, fucked another chick, demoted her afterwards for a while, and never have had a problem (boundary wise) since. Girls WILL test you--it doesn't necessarily mean you are not "Alpha" to them because it's normal. Letting it slide, though, will turn you into a beta bitch real fast--you have to snuff it out, and if it happens again, she's just not a high quality women and you should next her.

BeeBopJoe · 2018-09-04T15:47:47+00:00

no long distance relationship, no live-in girlfriend, no marriage, no sharing phone password, carry protection

The things you mentioned aren't even boundaries they are rules. Boundaries is a term usually used for lines you don't want OTHER PEOPLE to cross.

For LTR just to name a few of the top of my head: * No contact with exes * No playing games (trying to make me jealous, shady behavior etc) * No unnecessary drama * No letting yourself go (Start gaining weight, being unemployed etc)

boy_named_su · 2018-09-04T16:18:12+00:00

If she's more than 15 min late, I go do something else

If she flakes twice, she can pound sand

If there's drama, that's a soft next

FixYourselfFirst · 2018-09-04T15:27:29+00:00

You need to focus on approaching girls first. Boundaries are something you think about later.

koedeloe · 2018-09-04T18:33:14+00:00

- Must stay away from all that social media bullshit
- No contact with exes or hangout with guy 'friends' 1 on 1
- Must not drink too much alcohol
- No drama about stupid stuff
- Needs to give me personal space, I don't like clingy girlfriends
- If she gets chubby, she's out

There are more, I'm really picky when it comes to relationships.

Title	What are your boundaries?
Author	tomas_pz
Upvotes	1
Comments	8
Date	September 4, 2018 3:22 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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