r/Seduction, is it okay to be touchy and skip parts of the escalation ladder if this is the 3rd date?

oppan · 2012-05-11T10:05:18+00:00

The escalation ladder is supposed to be over an hour or two, not over 3 weeks !

yokhai · 2012-05-11T12:46:18+00:00

fuck that ladder. Get touchy on minute 3.

Stop using the tools as a crutch.

2012-05-11T11:24:47+00:00

more you worry about this stuff, THE MORE AWKWARD it will be whatever kino you choose to perform. if you decide the day before that you're going to hug her when you meet, it's for sure going to have a weird vibe to it. i guarantee you this because i've done the same mistake. the hug was fucking awkward.

Genuine desire is non-negotiable. It happens or it doesn’t. Desire is a spontaneous, chemical arousal between people, not a pre-written contract.

http://rationalmale.wordpress.com/2012/05/10/case-study-the-great-catch/

so don't try to rationalize kino. be congruent to how you feel that moment and makeout with her if that's how you feel once you see her.

TofuTofu · 2012-05-11T15:37:30+00:00

What the fucking fuck?

Man up and start touching girls, dude. Unless your personal values do not allow you to. But in your case I sense that you WANT to escalate.

SinSlayer · 2012-05-11T06:24:02+00:00

When I see her, I'm going to go for a hug.

FAIL!!!

When you see her, grab her, and kiss her with all the passion you can muster, leaving her breathless. Then look her in the eyes and repeat these words: "I've been wanting to do that for three weeks!"

UnapologeticalyAlive · 2012-05-11T15:36:11+00:00

I've gone from a purely plutonic relationship to sex in 5 minutes. It's up to you.

dantaeos · 2012-05-11T07:09:23+00:00

No offence, but this is fucking chodely. Stop worrying about what us awkard. It is only akward if you feel awkward and then she will feel that. There is a reason why we recommend escalating quickly, so that you don't end up doing 3rd, 4th and 5th dates. As soon as you comfortable and there is a vibe, you should be physically escalating. You could have closed it the last date, but instead you're still worried whether she likes you or not.

Stop worrying. As soon as you meet her, makeout. Then sexual touching all the way home.

There is no sexual escalation ladder, that shit is pathetic. You touch her how you want to touch her.

Title	r/Seduction, is it okay to be touchy and skip parts of the escalation ladder if this is the 3rd date?
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Upvotes	12
Comments	18
Date	May 11, 2012 6:17 AM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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