New to a workplace where It's all women. I'm still learning and they all give me orders and talk to me in this dumbed-down tone. It frustrates me but I need to learn. What do?

residentlifter · 2018-09-18T05:17:00+00:00

Sounds like you should find a new job. Hating your disrespectful coworkers is a recipe for hating your job and ultimately hating your life.

atticusfinch1973 · 2018-09-18T08:15:52+00:00

By the nature of women they have a hierarchy. If you were a new female they would treat you like this too, the fact you're a male just means it will last longer and be worse.

If you want to keep the job, first of all don't get frustrated and lash out if you're treated badly. Good way to get labelled a difficult male and have them try to get you fired.

Second figure out which ones are "in charge". Doesn't even have to be their actual job but which ones call the shots (almost like a prison because that's basically where you are), make decisions etc. and the others just follow along. Befriend them and get them on your side. Dealing with the lower level idiots will be easier this way.

Third, learn how to manipulate them. Simple principles from How to Win Friends and Influence People (google it) can go a long way in situations like this.

Aptote · 2018-09-18T06:03:46+00:00

get a different job, if its all women its not a real job anyway

AshyBoneVR4 · 2018-09-18T08:59:58+00:00

I'm with every who's saying to find a new job. But in the mean time, keep working there till you can. The more immediate solution is to care less about them and their bull shit. They're talking down to you to make themselves feel superior. That makes them feel better about their shitty lives. You just need to separate your work life from you home life. Realize you have a good life going and work is just a means to an end.

For pointers, I worked at a Victoria's Secret Call center from 18-24ish. I had the fuckin time of my life. For the first two or three years there the older "veteran" women treated me exactly how you explained. I didn't give a fuck. I worked anywhere between 50-70 hours a week, re-built my 3000GT VR4, bought an Eclipse GSX, and eventually an FRS because I was working there. I flirted with the younger girls, and when I knew I was quitting or just didn't give a fuck because I was financially secured, I started shitting were I ate.

The only reason why the way they're talking to you offends you is because you care. Give less fucks. They'll see belittling you doesn't work so some of them may start acting more flirty with you. Either way, for however long you're gonna be there, try to have fun, do your job, get paid, and get the fuck out.

MYMOUTHISNUMmn · 2018-09-18T05:21:27+00:00

Well im 19. You can tease and be friends with them. If you dont wanna fuck thats fine. Just make sure that you DO your job and charm them. I know this guy who's not a good worker. But because he has personality got promoted to a higher position. So imagine being a hard worker and well liked. It's about social hierarchy es if im not mistaken.

Take my advice with a grain of salt tho.

NeedingAdvice86 · 2018-09-18T14:09:39+00:00

They are co-workers NOT women...would you be this upset if a bunch of guys were treating you the same way?

If so, then you have some problems with just relating to people in general and need to figure out how to resolve this problem because it is really skill #2 in EVERY career which you attempt to pursue. OR you will have to find work which allows you to not have to work with people and still make a comfortable living...very hard to do as well.

If not and it is only because they are women, then you are letting the fact that you aren't getting pussy from women to cross over into other aspects of your life and you also have to fucking stop that shit now. These people aren't not responsible for you not getting pussy as they are simply fellow workers at the place you work...nothing more or less.

You are there to get the job done and if it comes down to dropping you or dropping this passal of women...then your ass will be out on the street. End of story.

These people are co-workers and nothing more.

Whisper · 2018-09-18T07:45:24+00:00

Never report to a woman. Women cannot lead for shit.

Rosace_89 · 2018-09-18T07:47:54+00:00

You're in the right OP, stay strong until you figure out your job 100%

they might be afraid you become better than them, sort of crabs in a bucket thingy

maybe try to be friendlier with them to appear less threatening?

MattyAnon · 2018-09-18T19:47:05+00:00

New job

Peter_B_Long · 2018-09-18T21:18:44+00:00

I've had these jobs. Working production jobs with women. I highly recommend just getting out of there. A security guard job sounds better than that. Being in that environment can become really toxic. My mom has been working at one of these for like 11 years and when she invites some co-workers over for parties, I'll hear how nasty they talk about the co-workers there, especially the guys. Like, really fucked up names (in spanish).

If you need to learn something, ask your supervisor or manager. Keep asking them questions until you get them down.

There's just no way for you to be an alpha here. I've had warehouse jobs with women which was awful, warehouse jobs with guys which was okay (they still shit test you and they'll fuck around more but it's more fun and easy going), and right now I work in an office with only 5 other co-workers who are all male and it's just perfect. There's no gossip to pass the time, no unnecessary shit testing. Just 6 dudes making money, being professional and logical.

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