Girls I'm dating pressuring me into sex. How do I respond.

atafies · 2012-08-03T07:10:49+00:00

Oh boo fucking hoo.

But seriously, you're overthinking it. Contrary to what cliches Hollywood throws on us, having sex early will not automatically doom a relationship, hell it starts them for most people I know.

heartree · 2012-08-03T07:06:46+00:00

fuck her, champion. fuck her until she bleeds out of every hole in her body. then make a new hole and fuck her some more

thenorthwinddothblow · 2012-08-03T07:54:07+00:00

Sex is part of a good relationship, you need to find out if ~~it's any good~~ you're compatible. A few weeks in is plenty of time to start having sex.

Don't think of sex as some bad thing, it's fun and can bring you closer. It's not a choice between sex/love and having sex can be good for your relationship. Besides you're hardly taking advantage of her if she wants it too... Also if she's quite sexually keen then you could be doing more damage by putting it off as she could get frustrated/feel unattractive. I've had a few girlfriends now and when we started having sex made absolutely no difference.

Man it feels like I'm in /r/relationships on here at times.

tomacuni · 2012-08-03T08:20:15+00:00

If there is no moral, religious, or physical reason why you can't have sex with her then you probably shouldn't worry too much about it. If you hold off for too long, she's gonna think you aren't sexually attracted to her and that could end the relationship faster than if you did sleep with her. Especially if she wants it as bad as you say she does.

TL;DR Fuck her

Batmanistan · 2012-08-03T12:17:41+00:00

ignore the haters. Some of them are right, as long as you treat her with respect afterwards and make it clear that you dont just like her for your body, sex can be a very powerful tool for building the relationship. Also, if you wait too long, she may become sexually unsatisfied and start loosing attraction. That being said, you absolutely shouldn't be having sex just because you feel that you have to because that sex will be awful and she will be able to tell. When you fuck her, mean it, and when your done, tell her how much you meant it. She'll love it.

UnapologeticalyAlive · 2012-08-03T14:10:37+00:00

What the hell!? You think sex rules out the possibility of a serious relationship? You've been severely brainwashed. Go find whoever has been giving you relationship advice and punch them squarely in the crotch.

ferveo · 2012-08-03T14:11:10+00:00

You've been with a girl for a "few weeks" and still not had sex? Sounds like you may have something else going on. Having sex with a girl or not and when you have sex with a girl simply has no connection to what your relationship with her would or could be. Putting off having sex with a girl you are dating is probably more damaging than having it "too soon". We are all sexual creatures and to deny that is to engage in abnormal behavior. If you value her, satisfy her.

puaCurveBall · 2012-08-03T14:57:31+00:00

This belongs in /r/askseddit as it is asking advice for a specific situation / girl

This will stay in spam filter, please repost in the AskSeddit subreddit.(Not askREDDIT, but askSEDDIT)

Please read RULES & GUIDELINES. This post is answered by many sidebar guides.

Also, don't worry about it! You didn't do anything wrong since you didn't know

puaCurveBall · 2012-08-03T14:58:53+00:00

I do want to have sex with her but I don't want it to look like I took advantage of her or ruin what could be a good relationship.

Dude, your entire worldview on relationships is jacked up. I'm completely certain, through personal experience and knowing hundreds of guys, that you can have sex on the first date and it won't "look like you took advantage of her" or ruining chance of relationship.

Sex on first date is great, sex on 2nd or 3rd is NORMAL. Waiting weeks is sexually repressed man.

heartree · 2012-08-03T08:27:33+00:00

[permanently deleted]

avonv · 2012-08-03T08:45:24+00:00

honestly it sounds like she is a bit of a slut bro. most sluts i know resort to that kind of behavior begging a guy she has barely been with for sex. it also sounds like she might be fat or ugly since you seem a bit put off at the thought of fucking her.

anyways, in most relationships people fuck within the first 3-4 weeks unless they live with parents (lol).

already you are doomed because you are thinking too hard, thinking big picture thoughts (date her seriously down the road) instead of just going for it. you are going to get lapped right now by the guys who are more than happy to put their dick in her

Title	Girls I'm dating pressuring me into sex. How do I respond.
Author	heartree
Upvotes	1
Comments	17
Date	August 3, 2012 7:05 AM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/xlz2w/girls_im_dating_pressuring_me_into_sex_how_do_i/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/girls-im-dating-pressuring-me-into-sex-how-do-i.1336716 https://theredarchive.com/post/1336716

Comments