As Requested - PUA 101 – Expanding Social Circles in College

laotzi · 2012-09-27T19:17:44+00:00

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jackisabanker · 2012-09-27T17:27:36+00:00

Doesn't resonate with me. Sound strategy, but I tend to think that this tactical micromanagement is bullshit.

yokhai · 2012-09-27T17:41:23+00:00

This is a quality post. Well rounded advice with solid and specific examples that doesn't self-promote.

I feel like there is a ton that you guys didn't cover, but this is the 101 portion.

If you plan on doing a 201 or need some insight/advice/extra writer let me know, I'd like to offer my own input about what i've seen in college.

Dan-Man · 2012-09-27T20:34:37+00:00

Back at college myself, but i cant view this because k9 web protection screens it as porn and blocks it. Any help?

PosVibeEmanator · 2012-09-27T22:16:29+00:00

Kinda what I was looking for, man, good stuff.

My problem is that well, these steps, its like they don't work for me, or perhaps more accurately put, I can't do them. Not I'm not willing to put myself out there, more like it doesn't stick.

“you want to do is put yourself in a position where you’re a good guy to know. Maybe that means finding out where the good bars are, or the good parties, but it really helps if you have some kind of value that you can provide to the people around you.” Become a social center of gravity, someone who always brings something to the table (maybe a weekend activity, a skill, a resource, or a connection).

I just can't seem to be that guy. My school is different from most in that there is a distinct lack of opens and the social life is a lot harder to be involved in compared to other schools. Not that that is any sort of excuse. I just can never seem to be invited to things. I joined clubs, but didn't actually make any friends from them. I'll go to parties that one of them holds (almost all guys, unfortunately) and its very awkward for me. I try to get into conversations, it just doesn't work. I love some of the things I'm involved in - but, I wouldn't say I've made close friends, much less made any good connections or actually get a girl, because of them. Its not like I don't try and connect with people. What do you guys do/say/talk about to form good relationships with them? This is honestly really starting to hurt the confidence I worked all summer on building. Its like I'm fucking invisible sometimes.

Less generalized, and less important:

Rapport....Teases still work very well here (friends give each other shit all the time) – studies, hometown, and nervous tics are all fair game – but ultimately, make sure your mark is always laughing with you.

None of my interactions have led well to this recently. Its not that I can't do it - I've done it plenty of times before, I just couldn't find good opportunities in anything I remember recently. Any suggestions on working it in there? Kinda hard to tease someone when they're talking about where they're from, or the type of music they like.

2012-09-27T21:26:49+00:00

misleading title

will_at_work · 2012-09-27T21:08:54+00:00

how about an article on Expanding Social Circles AFTER College

Title	As Requested - PUA 101 – Expanding Social Circles in College
Author	laotzi
Upvotes	87
Comments	19
Date	September 27, 2012 4:04 PM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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