I Feel Like I'm Not Progressing, And It's Getting Frustrating.

sormenkynsi · 2012-10-25T07:20:55+00:00

Firstly, I think if you examine where you are now and compare it to where you were 2 years ago, you will find a lot of areas where you have improved. In the moment, especially when you have just made a mistake, it can feel like you are getting nowhere. But on a longer time scale it is easier to see improvement in yourself.

Some ways to improve motivation:

Find a meetup/lair/wingman. I had plateaued a little. Then met a couple of wings, and I seem to have recently broken through that barrier.
Examine your sticking points and read material to fill in the gaps
Get some momentum. Go out more - every day for a month if possible. Nothing breeds success like success
Re-evaluate your definition of success. Success doesn't have to be an f-close within 2 hours of meeting someone. I define success as having a positive interaction with someone. Even with rejections, there is always something positive to focus on.
Try something different. Always night game? Try day game. Use indirect openers? Try direct openers.

Naga14 · 2012-10-25T09:01:14+00:00

Just remember that progression isn't a straight line. It has up swings and down swings, but in general it is increasing.

Also, analyze what went well/poorly each night you come home.

rmbarnes · 2012-10-25T12:51:50+00:00

Plateaus a natural. You just have to keep going http://www.rooshv.com/just-keep-going

Also, don't expect your AA to completely disappear. The fear is generated in your animal brain, which cannot learn to stop this reaction. Over time your fore brain learns to override the fear response from the animal brain. This means you can approach despite feeling the AA, which isn't the same as getting rid of AA.

2012-10-26T08:38:06+00:00

I feel like I'm in the same place as you, if not worse, since maybe I'm older. I don't have any sagely advice for you since I'm still not over AA myself, but as far as I have been told, you don't get over AA, you only learn how to deal with it.

Title	I Feel Like I'm Not Progressing, And It's Getting Frustrating.
Author	nycprowl
Upvotes	4
Comments	8
Date	October 25, 2012 5:31 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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