So question(s). I don't know where to begin.

Setsa · 2012-11-23T04:13:15+00:00

I think being polite and saying things like please and thank you gets more of a bad rap than it deserves. There's nothing wrong with being courteous so long as it's something that's rationed and will be noticed. If you say "sorry" or "excuse me, but..." before every question or are consistently throwing pleases and thank-yous around she will experience habituation and your courtesy will just come across as desperate attempts to stimulate reciprocation of your efforts. Ration courtesy for moments when it seems like it'd make a difference, like when holding that door open for the cute girl with her arms full will actually cause a smile and some elation in her mood. Follow-up with a conversation starter. Courtesy makes a good first impression, but too much is a huge turn off.

punkerdante182 · 2012-11-23T18:38:42+00:00

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Nexdominus · 2012-11-23T19:53:08+00:00

Please and thank you is fine as is opening doors for strangers etc... is beta. You're being polite or nice by doing it but that behavior is beta not alpha in any context and you definitely don't want her seeing it.

Unless you exercise a lot and increase your endorphin levels you will continue to feel depression, not feel better. Exercising is a natural way to do it as is your diet. I would recommend medication for a short time as a quick fix until you can incorporate an exercise and diet change into your lifestyle.

If you feel you're overdoing it then you probably are. Make sure the sensual/sexual feelings are in your body language, and how you touch her not in your actual words or conversation. Though double meanings are ok and work great in conversation. EG say: "it's hard for me to fit in" ...get it?

I PM'd you a couple systems I've looked into that have been of significant help to many guys I know, and myself

b204257 · 2012-11-22T20:47:04+00:00

You used one word quite often.. "I," we all have our Downs but once you start getting back into the groove of things only one person can make the effort to change and its you.

Now opening doors and being polite is alpha but don't concentrate on that too much. Be confident. Confidence is key. What is confidence? Its being you. Its being happy with who you are and not caring about how others percieve you. How do you percieve yourself? If its in a negative light, others will feel the same. I'm the same way. I've concentrated on talking to not just women but everyone. The more you socialize the better you'll get. You remember this. So you fell out the loop for a little bit because things happened. That's OK. Just start again. Start small. Slowly push your social limitations or comfort level and you will get there in no time. My main goal was to become a good conversationalist in my career and in turn I noticed seduction and everything just followed....

I would suggest "How to win friends and influence people by Dale Carnegie" you can even Google search it and download a PDF.

pickup_sticks · 2012-11-23T01:48:23+00:00

If medication is a stopgap, what is insulin? Would you tell a diabetic to stop taking it and instead look for a cure?

I take Zoloft and my life is immeasurably better for it.

Title	So question(s). I don't know where to begin.
Author	punkerdante182
Upvotes	3
Comments	13
Date	November 22, 2012 7:16 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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