Help... Should i be scared? worried???

fashin_throwaway · 2012-12-16T19:06:22+00:00

You're 17 dude.

IDGAF9000 · 2012-12-16T17:00:01+00:00

You're only 17. Don't worry. I found seddit when I was 20. Take comfort in the fact that you've started on the path of self-improvement at such an early age when most others are dicking around and/or too afraid.

I agree with im_fucking_zeez_brah. Keep talking to girls. It can be a little awkward in the beginning, and you will talk to some who won't even give you the time of day, but with practice you will develop thicker skin.

Don't think "how can I be more alpha". Be completely in the moment, listen to her, say what's on your mind, be genuine with your thoughts and emotions. I recommend you start meditating to practice being in the moment. Start with the /r/Meditation subreddit, and the "Mindfulness in Plain English" pdf: http://www.urbandharma.org/udharma4/mpe.html

Besides, "alpha" is not something you can just "turn on" in a conversation. Being "alpha" is a way of life. Having awesome hobbies, traveling, meeting many types of people, being a confident and genuine person...

Keep practicing, keep reading seddit (read the sidebar if you haven't already). im_fucking_zeez_brah is right, keep practicing and everything you've learned on seddit will come out naturally. Like I said, it can be hard in the beginning, we've all been there, we've all been rejected a countless number of times. Success never comes without hard work and pushing your comfort zone. It's up to you if you want temporary discomfort and long-term success, or short-term comfort and long-term dissatisfaction. The way I see it: endure the pain of discipline, or suffer the pain of regret.

im_fucking_zeez_brah · 2012-12-16T16:51:25+00:00

As a fellow 17 year old in a similar situation my advice is this: The stuff you read on here is very useful, but what's most important is actually talking to girls. Forget about what you have to do that you read on seddit and just start talking. Once you get some confidence you'll be able to talk girls without worrying about anything and all the things you learned on here will come out naturally.

ThrowawayPUA · 2012-12-16T17:36:15+00:00

Consider seddit a guide to where you are going. Don't be in a rush to get there, just enjoy the journey.

2012-12-16T19:24:30+00:00

read double your dating and ignore all the 'alpha' bullshit. you don't have to be the top of the rank, you just have to be assertive and carry yourself well.

don't think of it as being alpha, just think of it as doing what you want

VZPurp · 2012-12-16T22:07:19+00:00

You're in great shape if you found this place at 17. You'll get over those hurdles with practice. I wish I found seddit at 17!

2012-12-16T19:11:43+00:00

Just go talk to girls and dont sweat the details.

bythepowerofthor · 2012-12-16T23:21:16+00:00

Here's my 2 cents holmes. Don't let this subreddit be the end all be all for what you learn about pick up/ self improvement. What's on here may work for some, but it won't work for others. All this information is exactly that, information. Pick up isn't a linear path, it's a fucking windy sonofabitch. You're young, don't rush things. It'll all unfold just the way it's suppose to.

MyThrowawaySeddit · 2012-12-17T03:00:26+00:00

The movies have you thinking everyone is getting laid at 17. I think 1 in 10 people are having sex at 17. Chill brah. Keep trying.

Iwantgoodasses · 2012-12-17T09:30:27+00:00

Cheers guys, you guys are the coolest people on reddit.

Iwantgoodasses · 2012-12-18T05:16:34+00:00

I'm 17 too.

My advice that has worked for me:

Stop watching porn/masturbating

Take Scottish Showers: 10min warm, 5 minutes cold.

Work out only to keep in shape, don't bodybuild.

Eat well; salads and vegetable dishes

Dress suave. I wear suits, gloves, and pea coats to school. Stand out, get noticed. EDIT: Wear soft shirts. Girls love to feel soft shirts esecially when you're wearing them.

Smile.

Talk like your words are honey embedded with gold, but it's nothing special. Just you.

Title	Help... Should i be scared? worried???
Author	Iwantgoodasses
Upvotes	4
Comments	14
Date	December 16, 2012 4:15 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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