What line does a woman have to cross for you to be "reactive" and scold them?

kingcal · 2013-01-23T10:28:26+00:00

I think it all boils down to respect. If she does or say something that seriously disrespects you as a person, it warrants some kind of reaction. It doesn't necessarily have to be a verbal or overt reaction, but a reaction nonetheless. I'll give a couple for instances.

Several months ago, I was talking to a female friend in the bar. Her female friend came up and immediately asked me to buy them "shooters". I laughed it off and suggested she buy me one instead. After feigning interest for 30 seconds in our conversation, she butted in again. "No, seriously, are you gonna buy us some shooters or not?" I gave a reaction, but I didn't give it to her. I turned to the first girl I had been talking to and said "Well, it was very nice talking to you." and walked away.
This actually happened last weekend. It wasn't even with a girl who I had talked to or opened. The bar was extremely packed, and as I went up to get a drink, I came face to face with a girl who thought she was the queen bee. You could see it written on her face. She took her pointer finger and gave me a little push in the shoulder, as if I was supposed to make my way for her. When I didn't move, she did it again harder. I stood my ground, and she eventually went around me. I gave her a little "Excuse you" as she passed. I saw her staring daggers at me later. Haha. Fuck her.

talikfy · 2013-01-23T16:54:00+00:00

Let's face it: the world is full of assholes and bitches; which are two words in the english language to describe the same range of behaviors, just coming from members of the two sexes.

Let's call them collectively arrogant. If you can avoid dealing with them, do so. The world is a big enough playground that there's toom for everyone and there is an exorbitant number of non-arrogant people. So, if you just met such a person in a social setting, and they have demonstrated an arrogant and rude behavior towards you, just make up an excuse, the more lame the better Look at the time, I have to go water my plants! and just leave.

If it's in a setting where you can't just leave, like a family member or at work, try to interact the least possible with them. You see, these people need enablers victims that would put up, or who would fight back (you can't outfight these professional assholes) in order to get their kicks.

On a larger scale, if a place of work allows such behavior, either go to Human Resources or leave; in family settings, cut the interactions to a minimum, I am sure you can find a way to spend a few minutes here and there talking about the weather and nothing more.

When confronted directly just saying with a polite but firm tone That's rude; alternatively you can just lighten up the mood and laugh at their face and say That is so fucking rude, I love it! I can't wait to the guys at the office or simply That's so rude is actually funny! You know you have a future as a standup comedian? and leave!

Just like trolls on the web, don't feed them.

HumanSockPuppet · 2013-01-23T10:14:06+00:00

The only time I will scold a woman for crossing a boundary is when she says to make other people uncomfortable or unhappy. This generally happens in interactions where isolation has not yet occurred, and it has the benefit of showing that you are a protector and social arbiter of a group. At this point, she still needs to qualify herself and attract you.

In later stages, whenever a woman says or does something I disapprove of (usually something showing crass negativity or rudeness), I simply punish her by withdrawing my attention and looking at something else.

nittutt · 2013-01-23T15:41:15+00:00

I find that if you rather focus on "If i like something, let them know. If i don't like something, let them know" you will actually develop into a natural. If you keep focusing on being nonreactive and actually making an effort to do so, you will have troubles developing a solid game.

I hope that makes sense.

sh0nuff · 2013-01-23T18:13:32+00:00

It's not tricky, everyone has a line. For instance, if a girl pulls out her phone at dinner I will tell her to put it away. I will tell, not ask. You lose when you let shit slide that crosses your line. "Dam I hate it when she pulls out her phone to send a text when we're in the middle of a conversation, but I'm into her so I'm not going to say anything about it". Fuck that.

2013-01-23T17:32:15+00:00

You'll know when you reach your tipping point. One time this girl I know did something INCREDIBLY disrespectful, and something one shouldn't do to a friend. I finally had enough, called her out on it in a cool, calm, collected, ye firm way... and have gotten more respect from her than ever.

UnapologeticalyAlive · 2013-01-23T19:02:33+00:00

It's all about expectations. If you expect nothing from people, they can't disappoint you.

davdr · 2013-01-24T05:39:14+00:00

If she's a bully to other people or if she acts extremely entitled.

Capcom_fan_boy · 2013-01-24T15:21:23+00:00

Im seeing a girl casually who started looking at ok cupid in front of me. We are not exclusive, but i felt it was disrespectfull. I told her in pretty much those exact words. We're still seing eachother, and she has not done it since.

Title	What line does a woman have to cross for you to be "reactive" and scold them?
Author	Canei
Upvotes	20
Comments	23
Date	January 23, 2013 7:23 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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