[Theory] Gods gift to Man in keeping a conversation moving.

mistabeon · 2013-03-22T18:32:27+00:00

I live in miami and go out regularly. I rarely see successful guys spinning girls they just met. The times I do see spins, the guy is always fat or ill dressed or has some sort of personal thing he should have worked on before trying to spin a girl. When they do spin, it's usually awkward as fuck, and ends poorly for the guy. If getting rejected over and over is your goal, then by all means, follow this method.

isthisforeal · 2013-03-22T16:54:25+00:00

SeekingAlpha · 2013-03-22T19:48:46+00:00

Do not spin girls. Do not thumb war girls.

Rockyrambo · 2013-03-22T15:10:12+00:00

I really like the idea of opening someone with a spin. The girls will (mostly) find it cute, and we get a good look at them ALONG WITH a great basis for more kino! Yay!

And, yes, I can't agree more! Silence is key! I've learned in taking classes in communications and public speaking (comm. major here) that you should NEVER fill your silences with mindless (boring) banter or "uh" and "um". It makes you seem nervous and unconfident, unless you use it for comedic (or dramatic) effect.

EXAMPLE:

Girl: Do you want to come in for [coffee, tea, sex, whatevs ... ]? You: Uuuuuuuhhhh ... I dunno. My mom said I had to be home by [time] or she's going to take away my hot wheels. (Laughs all around)

This may be a terrible joke, but you get the picture.

RandianHero · 2013-03-22T22:30:03+00:00

I'd say a fairly large percentage of my interactions with women are nonverbal, or involve very limited talking on my end. If a woman is comfortable with you, she'll more than make up the difference anyway (sometimes to the point where you'll wish she'd shut up).

When I do say something, I keep it brief. An old principle in public speaking is to say exactly what needs to be said in seven words or less. Anything more than that is usually unnecessary and can come off as rambling. But if you try to adhere to this principle, you inevitably end up choosing your words more carefully, so you'll sound more profound and impactful than someone who sits there and yammers on endlessly.

FredFredson · 2013-03-23T07:07:58+00:00

Nah it's good advice man. As an introvert there's a tendency to cave into the pressure thinking that you need to talk all the time, or that you need to be a certain way. This creates a needy mindset because you think you need to say something when you don't want to. Abolishing this mindset is the one thing that has completely turned my life around for me. It's not what I did, but rather what I didn't do that changed my game.

By simply being more in touch with my instincts and being completely comfortable and honest with myself I have noticed a huge difference. If I want to say something, I say it. If I don't want to talk, I don't. I also noticed that I have a lot more presence around people because I am completely comfortable in silence. It gives you power because people suddenly get the impression that you're not talking because you don't want to rather than because you're shy. This makes girls or people feel uncomfortable and want to engage you instead, which is good.

2013-03-23T12:45:10+00:00

Since everyone is hung up on the spin ill provide a fool proof method for a "good" spin. You really can't mess this up. It is four steps that build compliance all the way to a spin.

All should be slow deliberate actions:

"Whoa! Let me see your hand!"
Take hand and for 2 seconds examine it.
Take hand and slowly move it above her head.
Eye contact for just a second and boom spin.

If at any point she doesn't comply with one of these steps then stop immediately as the spin will look fucking retarded. Don't tell her she needs to spin, but once you break it down into small steps and you are leading her then she spins it doesn't fail.

gigitygigitygoo · 2013-03-22T22:04:25+00:00

Reading this I can't help but think of the movie Drive...he had it mastered! Always wanted to try but this post gave me the boost.

Do you believe the silence makes you intriguing/mysterious or does it turn the tables so that she's trying to impress you?

rikjames90 · 2013-03-22T15:56:21+00:00

I like to switch up my openers every week to keep me on my toes so I dont get bored and it doesnt get stale and mechanic.

My new opener is the thumb wrestle opener. I go up to a girl and say "aloha, I want your opinion. How boring and unoriginal are handshakes? We do it all the time when we meet new people. enough is enough. I came up with something more exciting"

we then proceed to thumb wrestle while exchanging witty banter. Its golden. Its new. Shes smiling and laughing.

MrADHD · 2013-03-23T03:28:50+00:00

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Title	[Theory] Gods gift to Man in keeping a conversation moving.
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Date	March 22, 2013 2:35 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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