This Cracked article sums up the point very well, but even more simply put, watch this video of Alec Baldwin giving a no bullshit message to a group of salesmen.

His message applies universally in life, and most definitely in seduction. What do you have to offer this lady? Are you a nice guy? Sure. But who cares?

Stop making excuses for why you're not taking action approaching. Why you don't hit the gym. Why you don't apply for that job you want.

Put the work in that you know needs to be done. Nobody is going to do it for you, and frankly nobody is going to care if you don't. The successful work at what they desire and they are selfish in their pursuit -- it's this kind of brutal life ideology that the successful understand.

Your brain will come up with every feasible excuse to avoid change. Why? Because change is difficult. Change is hard. Change takes courage, and most importantly, change makes you vulnerable.

There will be many people along the way that will try to stop you - People that want to try and bring you down. They don't want you to succeed where they have failed due to inaction. Fuck them. You know what you need to do - now do it.