Hi Seddit

I wanted to write this so you guys can guide me in what general direction to go. A bit about myself:

  • Age: 28
  • Hobbies: violin, guitar, bass, improv, writing, climbing and juggling
  • Job: ethical hacker, security architect
  • Height: 5,7 feet
  • hotness: feel a little ugly (maybe a 4,8?) although this doesn't really bother me, skinny but fit
  • Country: Spain
  • Had only one girlfriend, 10 years ago before university.
  • Had some health problems that made me not want to go out at nightime.
  • I don't drink alcohol.

I used to be picked on when I was a teenager/kid so my self confidence has been low most of my life. I have been getting it back lately (have my dream job, very good friends, and I've had succcess in my hobbies), although I still have to work on that. I used to play on a progressive rock band, and used to meet lots of girls, although I ended up having them as friends. I used to think they were not interested in me, so I guess they got bored. Some of them, are friends now (and I love them as friends), but I'm sure they were attracted before. I have lots of female friends now!

After reading quite a lot about PUA (the game, models, no more mr nice guy, seddit and many more) and changing my clothing style, I have come to the conclusion that I wasn't that bad with women back then! If only I had realized... Right now, after all this reading, I feel like I was even BETTER off then than now. Now that I use some PUA advice I think I'm worst than before with regards to women. Maybe I can now see more mistakes than before?.

After all this, here I think what my main problems are:

  • I need to feel a connection before I makeout with a woman. Some of them approach me (or they even go for the kiss) but I don't feel comfortable and avoid them.
  • When I do feel confortable, I enter the friendzone.
  • When I try to make my intentions clear early, I think I might scare them out :/.

I prefer daygame and meeting girls via my social circle (I have a huge social circle in my hometown), so this might be stopping me too, as I might miss many nightime ocasions. I am also good talking to strangers, and I usually meet new people on the train or when car pooling. I moved to a new city around 3 years ago, and felt very lonely. I'm about to move to Barcelona next week. I hope I can join a improv group and have a fresh start in this new city.

Any general advice on how to solve my issues?

tl;dr: feel unconfortable with women I don't feel a connection with. Had some issues in the past. Moving to a new city and want a good start.