Did a lot of self-improvement over the years, no real noteworthy results. What am I doing wrong?

bl1y · 2013-10-28T13:52:12+00:00

I never consistently approached and therefore wouldn’t describe myself as an aspiring PUA

There's your problem.

2013-10-28T07:50:37+00:00

If there is any "void" in which needs to be "filled," it needs to come from your own being. Filling yourself with something external will make you dependent upon that stimulus, which is no bueno for many reasons. It really sounds like your "missing" something in your life. You're telling yourself that you shouldn't have a void based your self-perception of yourself. But ask yourself, is that truly me, or my ego?

You need to look at yourself, and find out what REALLY matters. Don't give 1 shit about what others may or may not think of you for that is external and not within your power. Focus on the internal; master yourself. A girl, women, guy, tranny, or whatever will not make you truly happy; only you have the power to do this.

Epictetus: "Never depend on the admiration of others. There is no strength in it. Personal merit cannot be derived from an external source. It is not to be found in your personal associations, nor can it be found in the regard of other people. It is a fact of life that other people, even people who love you, will not necessarily agree with your ideas, understand you, or share your enthusiasms. Grow up! Who cares what other people think about you!

Create you own merit.

Personal merit cannot be achieved through our associations with people of excellence. You have been given your own work to do. Get to it right not, do your best at it, and don't be concerned with who is watching you.

Do your own useful work without regard to the honor or admiration your efforts might win from others. There is no such thing as vicarious merit.

Other people'e triumph and excellences belong to them. Likewise, your possession may have excellence, by you yourself don't derive excellence from them.

Think about it: What is really your own? The use you make of the ideas, resources, and opportunities that come your way....

You can be justifiably happy with yourself and at ease when you've harmonized your actions with nature by recognizing what truly is your own."

MrChuckStorm · 2013-10-28T12:43:40+00:00

just gona say one thing "who shows hunger does not get to eat"

euph0r1a · 2013-10-28T07:29:37+00:00

You come off as pretty desperate, to be honest (I would be too if I hadn't been laid in almost 2 years).

Step 1.

Get laid. Just put your dick in something and get it out of your system. Fuck standards, they aren't doing you much good right now.

Step 2.

FOR THE LOVE OF GOD STOP GIVING THIS "HB 5.5" YOUR ATTENTION.

Instead she keeps on playing hard to get for more than 3 years now.

Holy shit, 3 years? Why the fuck are you wasting your time? You keep saying she should be lucky to have a chance with you, but goddamn dude, she has you by the balls.

If other women are seeing you bow down to an unattractive (as you say) woman, why would they think you DESERVE any better?

Tell her to get on your dick or fuck off, jesus.

From what you've written in the other post, you've got a load of stuff going for you, but that doesn't mean shit if you can't demonstrate your high value.

The only time I do well with women, especially when at a party/club, is when I don't give two shits about doing well with women. If you go to a club looking to hook up, you're the same as every other chump in the place, it reeks like a foul odour.

Go to have a great fucking time and dance around like a jackass, women will notice.

Example: last time my housemate and I went out clubbing, we met two girls who just happened to be dancing near us, eye contact happened and we had fun dancing around. My housemate yells "WE'RE GAY" for shits and giggles, and we end up being the fun gay guys. One of the girls even says "you have three seconds to tell me you're straight" to my housemate, and he says "NAH WE'RE GAY AS FUCK!" and we keep having fun.

Story is pretty irrelevant, but I like telling it.

Mason1313 · 2013-10-28T13:46:27+00:00

IMO, I only found happiness when I stopped looking. Now she will be my wife next year. Its all about getting all that you need to be happy alone. Once your happy and your doing your own thing, women have a way of finding you. You gotta completely let go though. No obsessing about it, and feel free to take your time. Remember, no one can like you if you don't like yourself. Not to mention the golden rule. Do onto others as you would want done to you.

ultrasuperthrowaway · 2013-10-28T19:45:08+00:00

When I was banging 1-2 girls a week I was pretty depressed on the inside. When I got up to 3-4 things started feeling better. Try that and see if it works

Title	Did a lot of self-improvement over the years, no real noteworthy results. What am I doing wrong?
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Date	October 28, 2013 7:10 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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