These are things I've done in the past, I've been reading and honestly if it wasn't for seduction I'd still be oblivious. With that in mind hopefully someone will benefit from my brilliant mistakes! My bad skipping the backstory

Lets just simplify it by saying that I'm oblivious to women.

Everything mentioned below is stuff I didn't notice 'in the moment', but figured out later..

  • Was at the beach with friends and a hotty showed up, she was hiding on her phone and 'unapproachable' to my mind. Was at a party days later and approached by same girl (same friends) and she said "Why didn't you talk to me at the beach?". She was all over me from then on, at one point she hugged me from behind but she's really short so she kinda just choked me... I was displeased and removed her hands, it stopped the attraction (that I was oblivious to anyways).

  • Was with a group of friends again, got an important text so I stepped away and inadvertently wandered near another group. One of the girls there started chatting me up immediately, we talked for a second but I was busy so I just wandered away, she let out a surprised "oh..." on my exit.

  • Was at a concert and these girls came and sat really close to me and my friend, a young girl and her sister I thought.. I opened the young girl being friendly planning to move to her sister.. Told the young girl she was the youngest I saw at a metal show but when I saw her face she was just ultra petite, she was 19 and quite gorgeous, just tiny! After a few min of conversation that felt awkward cause how I opened the other girl rested with her back against my hand. I moved my hand a little to let her know it was there figuring she'd move but she leaned against me more.. Right then another buddy showed up and pulled us to a big group of friends of mine in the middle of the concert. I looked back at them several times and noticed they were staring intently at me... Why didn't I go back and say hi or invite them to chill with my huge group of friends?! Failure.

  • At another party and saw a cute girl sitting on a couch on her phone, sat next to her on my phone and literally within a minute she was grabbing my arms and pulling me in for convo. She started fishing for compliments "I'm not dressed well enough" etc etc, we talk about 20 minutes and then she's leaning in closer and closer, her face was 3" from me and I never went for the kiss... After that she gave up.

  • Was out one night with friends and a new person showed up, she was off alone so I sat next to her, introduced myself and then told her I had to jet to chat with another friend. She sat next to me 3 times that night out of the blue trying to start convo but I kept getting cock blocked by random people (we roll in groups of about 20+ people and usually have 1-2 legit photographer buddies who bring a camera... Were big, noisy, and get everyones attention, we also all mingle a lot and people kept mingling when I was with this girl). SO later I look at her and she purses her lips, looks away and stars side glancing me, at this point I knew what was going on but I still was too much of a bitch to make a move (thankfully this was a few years back).

  • Was at a grocery store and this chick parked really close to me when there's plenty of room everywhere else, she apologized and I gave her shit while still in the car, she asked if I could get out and I told her "don't worry, I'd only hit your car to get that number, it's worth it for the cute ones (smirk)" but then I was all business! I had shit to do, noticed this girl trailing me 3 or 4 times with nothing in her basket.. Why didn't I follow up, this damn girl was following me around the shop and I still couldn't figure it out!

  • Was at a diff grocery store taking my gma shopping (Yes, I'm fucking awesome like that) struck up conversation with this SMOKING hot bag girl, 18 or 20, very petite.. So were BSing and I've got 1 bag of shit, I ask her how her days going and she says "you know, it's work haha" so I say "we'll we can always make up for it later (smirk)" and then I look over at my grandmother checking out and smile, right then bag girl grabs my arm and asks if I need help taking my stuff to the car.. I have ONE bag of shit, while I'm processing wtf is going on she says "... or.. not?" and I'm like "yeah I'm good, thanks though!" walking to the car it hit me like a ton of bricks and half a ton of disappointment.. Fuck I suck!

  • Was at a rave on NYE and got boob checked by this girl (she was walking past me and boobed my arm twice in about 1 second, just passed and turned around to pass again, then she walked across the dance floor slowly and found and open spot, turned and looked at me. I turned and walked away.. Sigh.

This is a small glimpse of the shit I missed. Now I'm not sure why I get this kinda attraction honestly, my friends tell me I have a very strong presence and people 'feel me' walk into a room. I've learned a lot, and the more I learn the more I see my mistakes.

My oblivious ass has wised up some and I've noticed this stuff. What may seem obvious to most may fall short to a few people >.>

Hopefully someone can learn from my mistakes!