How do you deal with girls complaining to you after they get comfortable?

social_scrying · 2014-04-27T22:02:02+00:00

Depending on how attracted she is to you, varying degrees of bluntness can be applied. Usually if she is complaining to you, she has a significant degree of investment already established in you.

hard callout: "Hey, look at me. Im here to have fun with you, not to listen to your problems. Lets talk about something else."

tease: "I bet you're one of those girls who complains all the time, and I bet you get away with it because you have a pretty smile"

appeal to empathy: "I understand how you feel, but I don't think it's good for you to dwell on these negative thoughts."

My personal go to is turning it into a game, for example: "Lets play a game. Every time I hear a complaint, you have to buy me a drink and vice versa. If you dont buy me a drink, Im going to pick you up and put you in the trash can over there".

edit: each response should be paired with appropriate kino and a change of context and location

guy14 · 2014-04-27T21:54:00+00:00

I'm having this issue as well.

random_bored · 2014-04-27T21:55:48+00:00

I'm not an active poster but I have been incorporating a lot of this material into my life, and in my experience when they start to complain I stop them and change the subject, take control of the conversation and guide it where I want it to go.

unpossibru · 2014-04-27T22:10:43+00:00

I broke up with my most recent ex partly because she was always negative and complained all the time. I called her out on it and she blew up on me for minimizing her problems. She never contributed anything to the relationship but everything I did wrong was a huge deal. I just don't have any patience for whining any more and I'm not afraid to let them know that I won't put up with it.

shoganaiyo · 2014-04-27T22:33:45+00:00

Change the topic. It's really that simple. If she starts up again, change it to something else right back.

Siddly · 2014-04-29T02:53:50+00:00

This has happened to me multiple times before. I was out with this girl once and she started talking shit about her ex and then talking about some pretty emotional stuff during her childhood. If you like the girl and want to try and make something happen then you need to knock it on the head quickly. Listen to her for a bit then change the topic, tell her something like you're out with her now so don't dwell on the past or some shit like that.
From what I've seen, if a girl is confiding in you or opening up enough to complain about her life or some other stuff it's only a short step to becoming that friend.

Title	How do you deal with girls complaining to you after they get comfortable?
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Date	April 27, 2014 9:41 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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