Do any PUAs give flakes another chance?

alwaysthrowmeaway · 2014-06-15T16:21:42+00:00

The article seems solid. Play it cool and reduce interaction as a function of flaking. It might be real or a shit test. Either way all you can do is play it cool. I guess if you don't have other plans you need to curb your expectations, and always be ready for the possibility of a flake. Honestly, it seems like a better move to just cut it off after 2 flakes. You can play cool over the first, but if you continue after 2. Wouldn't you just be feeding her ego and start to look weak/needy. Always play it cool, as the article says, but after 2 flakes in a row, I don't see how you can continue to ask her out. At that point I would think: Is she that bad a planning? She has 0 respect for you. Why put yourself in that situation?

snotsnot · 2014-06-15T12:48:35+00:00

Sure! I was recently flaked on by an exchange student I met on tinder. She was getting somewhat unresponsive afterwards. I waited a week and asked her to help me pick up a shirt. After the shopping we went back to my place and everything pretty much worked out from there on.

DirtyProjector · 2014-06-15T15:22:28+00:00

I'm not a PUA but my ex flaked on me and I followed up a week later and we went out and had an amazing time.

Tenmagnet · 2014-06-15T18:36:45+00:00

Yes! The advice to just "next" any woman who tries to reschedule a date is one of the dumber PUA ideas. Women flake for all sorts of reasons, and most of them have nothing to do with you.

Blog post on it here

If she flakes once, and gives a bit of notice, it's no big deal. If she stands you up (gives no notice) or flakes more than once, then I start getting a bit annoyed and usually move on.

daddy01 · 2014-06-16T20:56:41+00:00

really liked the article; made a lot of sense; except for one small point... Once you decide that you don't want to pursue (2 or more flakes) what wrong with leaving it in her court?

I base my actions largely on the how the flake goes down; one extreme is getting stood-up, and the other extreme is the apologetic flake with a really credible excuse. From reading your article; you don't seem to suggest that this is even relevant?

ChasingLamely · 2014-06-15T11:11:03+00:00

A good PUA doesn't have flakes...

Title	Do any PUAs give flakes another chance?
Author	TDSee
Upvotes	10
Comments	16
Date	June 15, 2014 8:59 AM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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