Where are general places you go out to keep a girl interested?

puaCurveBall · 2014-07-09T17:35:07+00:00

keep a girl interested

Whoa. Full stop. What????

Why should you have to do ANYTHING to "keep" her interested? You think if you are James Bond / Tom Cruise / Whoever they would have to worry about "keeping" girls interested?

You are approaching this from entirely wrong mindset. The most interesting thing is YOU. You can't be worried about YOU being boring... you are a fucking amazing guy and every second with you is amazing for them.

It sounds like you need to up your confidence and focus on communicating with the girl.. right now you seem to be treating it like building instructions... "Walk around + holding hand = get a kiss". She is the one who "lands" a kiss... you are giving her a kiss, not taking it.

Instead of treating the thing like "If I do XXX and YYY, I get sex", focus on actually enjoying the time with her and figuring out how the two of you fit together. You can't pass all of that over with just a date idea.

KoneBone · 2014-07-09T16:05:31+00:00

Something that not every other chump is doing. Women love to be surprised by a man being more spontaneous and adventurous than average. Also I hate to say it but women are kinda shallow sometimes, so something that she would be happy to post on her facebook...

If you are gonna do a more traditional thing like grab drinks, then make it memorable. For example if you both like a specific drink, go to a few places that you know make them well to try to find your city's best... etc.

thisisntben · 2014-07-09T15:52:48+00:00

Depends where you live, but the activities most places have nearby:

mini-golf
bowling
walk along the beach
picnic in a park
if you know of an activity she enjoys, do that with her
if there's something you're good at, see if she'd like to be 'taught' by you for an hour. Example, I play drums so when they find out they often say they wish they could play an instrument (if they can't), so I offer to take them for an hour. Gives you a chance to showoff and it's good fun for them as well

2014-07-09T16:03:10+00:00

I usually do bowling then a quick desert at this orgasmic bakery in NY followed with a walk ( bakery is located by a place that a lot of romantic couples go to, to walk, and it's on the way to my house. All works out. A bakery is great if you're not trying to splurge on the first date

Murbyl · 2014-07-09T17:43:08+00:00

Something fun. There is a swing dancing place by my place. Its 10 dollars to get in and it includes a class.

That's my current go to for dates, girls love it, its close to where I live, and so far, it has 100% success rate.

I've had bad experiences with bowling. If the chick sucks, it can go very bad.

Either way, you just need 1-2 good dates. If you are turning this into months and tens of dates, you need to move faster. If the chick is not putting out after a few good dates, move on, odds are she never will and just finds the stuff you take her to amusing.

Also, let her be the one to try to hold her hand. For me, it works to be physical (hugs, dancing, tickling, etc), yet neutral (no hand holding, or outright making out or similar until we are isolated and I know we can escalate). Anticipation is a good thing.

Aducky · 2014-07-09T22:20:56+00:00

Training wheels for places where kino is natural are easy spots,

they've been listed already, but regardless of what you do you want to make sure you are able to create

attraction (kino/position tension) help guide to this goal
laughter
excitement

you can do 2 and 3 through just normal conversation, and if you get good at conversation threading you're able to do it anywhere regardless of context. being good at 1 is harder, but with practice you won't need places to go to keep a girl interested because she WILL be having a great time independent of what you two are doing because you're such an awesome guy/

lofiharvest · 2014-07-09T23:33:19+00:00

My bedroom.

Jbasket · 2014-07-09T19:49:06+00:00

My dad's a pilot, took her flying

StupidWes · 2014-07-09T19:26:22+00:00

Be yourself. If you have to do anything beyond that to keep her interested, then the relationship won't be successful in the long run anyway.

Kaizer7 · 2014-07-09T22:39:18+00:00

Driving range is always a great idea if she doesn't know how to play golf. Give you the chance to get close and "teach" her a thing or two.

joshsway · 2014-07-09T16:59:50+00:00

I almost always try to invite her to my place or somewhere very nearby for a second date, depending how well the first date went. If I already had sex with her on the first date then to my place on the 2nd date.

Title	Where are general places you go out to keep a girl interested?
Author	nsanever
Upvotes	55
Comments	33
Date	July 9, 2014 3:37 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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