Will fclosing a ton of girls / fclose HB8+ make you happy?

TheSicilianDude · 2014-09-01T21:19:41+00:00

Does this stuff make you happy?

This stuff isn't here to make you "happy" per se. It's here to help you find fulfillment and satisfaction in your dating and sex life.

Fucking a ton of girls is fun but at the end of the day it won't make you happy. If you see that as the source of your happiness and make it your goal to fuck 100+ girls it can lead you to a pretty dark place. Believe it or not, I know some guys who have fucked upwards of that many girls, and they really aren't that happy of people.

At the end of the day, what matters is your personal fulfillment. Maybe for some that's fucking new girls all the time. Maybe for others it's having a healthy relationship with a girl they like. I personally find the latter to be much more fulfilling in the long run.

Bottom line: It's quality, not quantity. Joe may have fucked 27 HB9s and Bill has only fucked 2 okay-looking girls, and is in a serious relationship with one of them. But for some reason Bill is way happier than Joe. No one really cares about numbers. All that matters is your personal satisfaction. How you accomplish that is up to you.

I think a lot of people here are compensating from being nerds in high school and just want to show the world they're desirable.

This is very harsh but there is some truth to it (I say this because I WAS that nerd in HS). Some overcompensate with excessive PUA tactics, or objectifying the fuck out of women, or just generally having a horribly negative attitude toward women and dating (see TRP for examples of this).

This shouldn't be to "prove" anything to the world, but to make a lifestyle change for the better. I got sick of not getting what I wanted in my sex and dating life, so I decided to change, and my life has improved as a result. I encourage other guys to have this kind of attitude toward it. Making this kind of change is a very rewarding experience.

Would you be better off with a different hobby, maybe getting really good at chess? Focus on your career?

This is not a hobby, nor should it be. It is a lifestyle. Improving yourself and improving your dating/sex life is a lifestyle change. However, it should not define you as a person. You should have your own hobbies and passions. There's more to life than this stuff, and seduction/pickup/etc. should not be your sole focus. Start a band, join a sports team, do shit you love. Because that kind of stuff is what makes you unique, and girls love guys who are passionate about stuff.

TL;DR: Trying to fuck X number of girls will not make you happy. Finding out what your goals are and seeking improvement and fulfillment in your dating and sex life will (hopefully) help you find happiness.

crammotron · 2014-09-01T21:51:17+00:00

Just go out and have fun. If that leads to you having sex with a bunch of girls then so be it.

rattamahatta · 2014-09-01T21:12:03+00:00

No, of course not. Knowing, and having had the experience of learning and ultimately succeed in any field is what drives and motivates people. After they tell you the most basic stuff you need to know, the next chapter is always inner game. Find the root issues and solve them. Become the best version of yourself. Get independent from external validation, stop attention seeking behaviour, watch others and pick up subtle clues. Good material is not about pickup lines and gimmicks.

2014-09-01T23:04:18+00:00

I'm not 50 yet but I'm settled down with a family now and I can say whole heartedly that I don't regret a single moment of the years I spent in the game. That's what I wanted to do at the time and I loved it, the good and the bad, I've grown up and what I want has changed but that doesn't mean I regret the old days just cuz I prefer to be settled down now.

puaCurveBall · 2014-09-01T21:19:02+00:00

No way. There are plenty of guys who get all this and are still miserable.

Would you be better off with a different hobby, maybe getting really good at chess? Focus on your career?

No way to that as well. There are no external solutions to internal problems. There are plenty of guys who focus on hobbies and career and are still miserable as well.

You have to figure out WHY you are miserable and work on your own problems, you can't fix any of them by simply doing more "stuff" in the world.

Hazincircles · 2014-09-01T21:45:51+00:00

Yes, I would be very happy if I fclosed a ton of HB8 girls. It would help me figure out exactly what qualities I like in a person. But I wouldn't do it if interferes with my career.

nummas · 2014-09-01T21:19:24+00:00

I'm not most of us and have no plans to settle down and I'm in my 30's. There is too much life to enjoy and things to see and do to wast years of your life settling down and throwing hard earned money into raising kids and a wife. But it is an interesting question. I'm lucky to spend a day every few week on approaches and picking up. But when I do its a good feeling. For some it might be an addiction perhaps?

IANAPUA_Yet · 2014-09-01T23:33:17+00:00

You seem to be missing the simple fact that dating a ton of girls will help you settle down. I've spent most of my life settling for whatever broken woman happens to stumble into my life. By improving my game, I'm actually becoming able to meet and attract the kind of women that I'd actually want in my life. Eventually, I'll even attract one that I want to stay permanently. I'll fuck a lot of girls along the way and that's fun, but it's not why I'm doing it.

2014-09-02T00:46:56+00:00

Honestly, I would be happy if I have stuff to cross off my sexual bucket list. Though, considering I just got out of my first serious relationship, I honestly think I like relationships more, which is why I'm hoping to eventually revisit and try again with this girl when I get my shit together. I had a one night stand with some girl from Tinder a month back and I only felt good for a few hours before going back to thinking about my ex.

It's really surprising honestly because I would have always thought of me to be the opposite of that type of person.

SupALupRT · 2014-09-02T02:07:03+00:00

Nah getting good with girls is a worthwhile past time, the more girls you get with, the higher chance of finding one you actually really dig.

2014-09-02T03:33:18+00:00

"Is it worth it?" Re-read your comment after that question you posed. You already answered it.

manslutalt · 2014-09-02T04:51:56+00:00

I don't expect it to make me happy, but I won't be satisfied with myself until I'm confident with women and have access to all the sex I want. I think of it as one of many obstacles to long-term happiness.

Jake_STi-RA · 2014-09-02T05:06:20+00:00

Does this stuff make you happy?

If I learned one thing from learning another language that can be applied here it's: If you enjoy the process, you'll definitely enjoy the outcome.

HB 8.25

I removed this scale from my mind a long time ago. Debating whether to talk to a 9 or a 8.7 seems pretty petty.

Psych40 · 2014-09-02T06:11:57+00:00

I was wondering about this question myself. When I first started practicing game a couple months ago (I'm still very much a noob), I told myself that if I k-closed a few girls and found one I could f-close and keep fucking, I'd be happy. Now after I've accomplished that I've decided I want to have up to three girls I can consistently be fucking, in a rotation.

After that happens, who knows? Maybe I'll begin wanting to see how I feel about a series of fun ONS type things. Trying to fuck a dozen girls in a month. Whatever.

nedshepherd · 2014-09-02T06:22:21+00:00

That's all it is, a hobby. It's more fun to some than it is to others, for example I hate chess and no amount of me playing could ever make me happier than hitting on girls in a club all night.

PlayerVII · 2014-09-02T09:36:29+00:00

Id like to be 50 with a beautiful women that just fits you don't find that if you don't keep looking.

You just get complacent.

2014-09-02T10:12:50+00:00

For guys who never get laid, it gets to the point where you obsess over girls and sex just because you don't get it. So at that point, yes, it is 'worth it' even just to get to the point where you realise sex with an attractive girl isn't actually = life complete.

Cali_Val · 2014-09-02T04:08:20+00:00

Maybe when I'm 50 I can worry about "was it worth it" but now in my 20's? dude its fun, its life, I enjoy the FUCK out of it, I've never had more fun. So I doubt i'll ever be "god damn, why did I ever party and fuck lots of bitches?"

I got into game because my personal beliefs are getting better at any aspect that interests me. Women was a big part of it.

It makes me happy, I have a shit ton of hobbies, in fact today, my day off of work, I spent about 8 hours composing some music. Went to the gym and worked out hard. Spent a good hour listening to a program (Tony Robbins was today) & of course, talked to a couple girls that are in my circle.

Why would anyone ask this question?

Title	Will fclosing a ton of girls / fclose HB8+ make you happy?
Author	kookoobear
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Date	September 1, 2014 8:44 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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