I only seem to attract betas. What can I do to attract a higher caliber man?

trpquestion · 2013-12-30T02:26:33+00:00

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schizoiddude · 2013-12-30T04:52:47+00:00

Put more effort into your appearance and don't be an ungrateful, abrasive bitch.

You know all those funny, smart, dog-loving guys with good family ties you described? The ones who ask you what you need at the store, if they can cheer you up, if they can give you a foot massage, who idolize you, who're willing to give up everything for you, who make you feel like the masculine one? Just act like them.

[deleted] · 2013-12-30T00:43:53+00:00

Alpha men are rare and they have a lot of valuable traits.

If you want an alpha male you're going to have to make yourself standout, you need a lot more substance than nice makeup or a good body.

Are you funny? Do you volunteer somewhere? What makes you a character, what makes you different from other girls?

If you only have looks, you're only going to get beta's, or an alpha who will pump n dump.

thr0waway33 · 2013-12-30T04:20:19+00:00

I've had three long-term boyfriends (12-16 months) and about five shorter flings

If this means you've had at least 8 sex partners (possibly more), then that might have something to do with it. Double digits are a red flag for most men.

but I keep him around because he's nice and kind, and it's fun to go on dates, have an activity partner, and sleep with someone.

Sounds as if you're the kind of person to keep a boyfriend around just long enough until the next one is a sure thing (i.e. the kind of girl who hasn't been single since pubery). Not sure how most men feel about that, but to me it's an orange flag at least.

Lastly, it might be worth reposting this question in /r/RedPillWomen, since that's the LTR-branch of TRP.

FortunateBum · 2013-12-30T00:11:28+00:00

I have no idea why women are so confused by life when for them, it's so simple.

Date wealthier men.

How hard was that?

mrpoopistan · 2013-12-30T06:14:29+00:00

"I would say my body is an 8 and my face is a 6-7 depending on your tastes"

Subtract two from each and call that the honest answer to your question. Women always over-rate themselves because they base their score off the hottest guy they ever bedded. You're a 6 body with a 4 face, and that's the problem.

648262 · 2013-12-30T08:39:11+00:00

Envision the man you want.

Envision what type of girl that man feels he deserves.

Mold yourself as best you can to be that type of girl.

theonlyoblique · 2013-12-30T20:36:30+00:00

So you want to know how to attract an alpha male — but the problem is the alpha male will chose you if you are what he desires. If the only thing you are good for is sex then that is all you'll get from him. If you complement what his life goals are and if he feels that you both can be in a balanced and harmonious relationship then you'll get that from him if that is what he desires. If you try to be something you're not he will notice it in time and then move on to the next one. If you wear a facade and you aren't yourself you will grow tired of being someone you aren't, then when you strop you faking it you will both start complaining that you are 'growing apart'.

The only things you can do...

1) Know who you are and what you want out of life. 2) Enjoy doing things you love to do. 3) Don't change for someone. 4) Be open to try new things but don't fake it if you don't like it. 5) Date as many men you can until you find your alpha — if he is a beta don't string him along until you find that next branch to swing to. End it right away and tell him why, don't sugar coat that shit. 6) Learn to be truly happy being alone.

When you are completely happy and don't need someone to fill a void then you will find someone you enjoy sharing your life with.

marlybarrow · 2014-01-03T05:31:25+00:00

Have you ever thought about turning a beta into an alpha?

Let's say you meet a guy and enter into a relationship with him. He doesn't have the best job, isn't the most confident, isn't the most popular etc but has in some way or form, expressed a desire to be more masculine or traditional and to have a family in the near future.

You could then introduce him to the redpill, tell him what turns you on, what turns you off and if he is receptive to the idea and works on improving himself then you pretty much have a man with beta tendencies working on his more alpha side. Being by a mans side when he wasn't at his peak counts for a lot more than attatching yourself to a man that has already gone through the lean times, failures in life and hard work in imroving himself. The former will bond with you, the latter will see you as disposable because you're just like every other woman that finds him attractive.

In other words, I think you're over estimating attractiveness and value as a mate if you expect a ready made alpha to just fall into your lap and become disappointed if they don't.

iKill_eu · 2013-12-29T23:50:35+00:00

Be intimidating.

In my experience (as a man), girls who attract a lot of beta orbiters (past LTR was one, current FWB is one) are the ones who are super easy to talk to, aren't necessarily 9s/10s and never turn anyone down - and if they do they do it super softly. Intimidating chicks don't get approached by weak/soft men, because those guys are scared of rejection.

This depends on physical attractiveness - if you're an ugly sloot, forget about it - but attractive girls who give off a slightly bitchy vibe can ward off most beta males, I would believe.

Male advice, take it with a grain of salt.

mrust · 2014-01-01T19:20:53+00:00

1 Improve your looks 2 Lower your standards

w_cross · 2013-12-30T00:42:21+00:00

They are out there and a minority and what they do attracts women so you might have to compete a bit.

Also, I liked how this post put things in perspective-

http://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/1esxf0/an_anonymous_letter_from_a_mom_one_of_the_best/

Spiderman48 · 2014-01-07T23:40:51+00:00

Be more domestic and focus on dressing well and looking good 100% of the time. I've seen girls who only get dolled up to impress other females, and its off putting. Like she'll let herself go quicker because she gets her validation from being in an LTR with me.

Also, less attention seeking, you don't need to be instagramming selfies and stuff. In my opinion that makes it easier for betas to show interest indirectly, whereas alphas would approach you in person.

trpquestion · 2013-12-29T23:16:48+00:00

I realize this isn't really an answer to your question, but I'm sort of curious about something.

Forget whether this is really possible, assume that it is -

If you were able to successfully guide a beta to developing alpha traits, do you think you would feel the same attraction due to those traits that you would feel for a 'natural' alpha or a man who took it upon himself to change before you ever met him?

trpquestion · 2013-12-30T00:19:59+00:00

Are you meeting these men while single and they are not interested? How many have rejected or passed over you?

You are going to have trouble because you are not particularly interesting (going off of what you've said here) and you are in academia.

Without knowing more, I'd suggest to start standing and walking straighter and more generously, and to think of witty things you can say at social events that would trip up your past lovers without sounding mean or petty.

NahDudeFkThat · 2013-12-30T10:03:19+00:00

Being high quality attracts high quality.

Work on being feminine and a good person and watch how easily it is to secure a great husband.

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Petrarch1603 · 2013-12-29T23:27:55+00:00

You have learned nothing from TRP. Besides, a lot of betas are pretty high calibre men. You're complaining about beta men offering you foot massages?

trpquestion · 2013-12-29T23:46:31+00:00

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Title	I only seem to attract betas. What can I do to attract a higher caliber man?
Author	trpquestion
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Date	December 29, 2013 9:40 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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