Why do the whole seduction thing?

DatWhiteBoyyyy · 2015-05-20T01:42:27+00:00

Seduction doesn't JUST have to be about picking up a different girl every night. While that's the end goal for a lot of people, the techniques and psychology you learn along the way can be applied in infinite situations. You'll learn to be more confident, charismatic, you'll think on your feet better, be a better judge of character within the first 60 seconds of meeting someone or even before they've said a word to them. You'll learn how to steer a conversation and to manipulate situations to your benefit. Shit SALESMEN use all sorts of forms of seduction.

new_cummer · 2015-05-20T02:21:57+00:00

The problem is that we're taught from a very young age to pedestalize women and sex as if it's the greatest thing in the world. The truth is that sex and relationships are just like all the other good things in life such as good food, hobbies, ambitions, adventures and so on.

I feel good when I go to a fancy restaurant and have a delicious meal or execute a new recipe myself. I feel good when I go hiking, bush walking or rock climbing every once in a while. I feel good working out knowing that I'll be healthier, strong and better looking than before. I feel good when I progress in my career and feel like I'm achieving something and just like all of the above I feel good when I'm having sex or in a relationship sometimes.

We expect sex and relationships to be this amazing thing that will fix everything and give us limitless happiness. But when reality doesn't meet up to our expectations we get all confused and depressed.

So what's my motivation for sex and/or relationships? Apart from the biological drive, I enjoy having sex and sharing a part of my life with another person from time to time.

Jake_STi-RA · 2015-05-20T01:57:35+00:00

It's a good question, really. Remembering some of the posts a while back, I questioned whether people wanted to improve themselves and have a better and more enjoyable life or if they wanted to just cave into social pressure that self-worth is measured by how many times one got laid. The philosophy of "hit it and quit" made a bit disappointed in some people.

Harmonic_Minor_Shred · 2015-05-20T03:09:49+00:00

Because it makes you a better, braver, stronger, more social and intelligent person.

Don't do it to take anything away from girls. Don't do it to boost your self image in the eyes of others. Do it because you love to share the person that you are with others.

No relationship or particular girl will make you truly happy, only you can do that for yourself. Work on becoming the person you want to be, and don't be afraid to share/give yourself to others in a genuine way. It will make you happy, and as a side bonus, you will get laid.

I'm not saying 'just be the same old self you've been and you'll be happy', you still gotta go out and pimp it hard mate, but respect yourself and the people around you on your journey.

ShamwowTseDung · 2015-05-20T06:22:13+00:00

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What is this?

recyclablebantha · 2015-05-20T09:29:15+00:00

I was talking with a close friend today about my desire to meet girls, get laid, do dating, fall in love, the whole thing, when he started probing me for why I'm so interested in this pursuit.

I couldn't really come up with a genuinely good answer.

Wait. Let me get this straight. He asked you why you:

Want to meet girls.
Have sex.
Fall in love.
The whole thing..... (which means settle down?)

Do I have his questions right?

If so, you're saying that you couldn't answer him adequately?

First off, this is a rather asinine line of questioning from your friend here. He might as well ask a cat why it wants to hook up with another cat and make kittens. Why does any living thing on this earth want to have sex? Why does any living thing want companionship? Why settle down? Why fall in love? Forget all of that even and ask yourself this..... Why do you enjoy good food? I mean, beyond staying alive, what's the point? You KNOW the point.

IT FEELS GOOD. /thread. But I'm not quite finished yet.

Is there any more meaningful reason that you do this beyond simply trying to boost your self-image, get laid, have a relationship, etc.? What's your heart's motivation?

I don't understand this line of questioning. You don't need to read Kant, Nietzsche, Plato, or the Alchemist to justify feeling good and enjoying life. You're looking the gift horse of life in the mouth, man. Quit that. Also, I think your friend was trolling you.

LordofRice · 2015-05-20T01:37:17+00:00

Nobody wants to die alone.

Title	Why do the whole seduction thing?
Author	dhgrossman92
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Date	May 20, 2015 1:14 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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