College.

CrushHazard · 2015-07-23T03:46:02+00:00

It depends.

Within your social circle, your reputation is everything! Do not be overly aggressive with women within your social circle (this includes your dorm room). You want to get the reputation as a guy who loves women, but keep your hookups secret. They will find you more mysterious and more attractive if you keep your sex life mostly to yourself. If you don't have any luck, hang in there. Don't start stalking women or doing anything creepy, because that will stick with you for your entire college career!

Outside of your social circle, yeah, just go for it, but go in with a plan and try your best. Approach the game like chess, not beer pong. Don't play crash and burn game (i.e. don't just approach for the sake of approaching and take glee in getting blown out). That's a bad habit that is nearly impossible to break.

Take all sorts of different classes. Acting classes are really helpful! Hang out at the gym and take rec classes like yoga, Pilates, Salsa, breakdancing, whatever. Improve yourself, and women will notice.

chron1k · 2015-07-23T04:54:17+00:00

A lot of girls at college are looking to have just as good a time as your are. I'm not sure if where you are going will have like a freshman orientation, but if it does, talk and be friendly to everyone (guys included). Try to expand your social circle quick. The more people you get to know, the more parties you'll get to go to and the more girls you will meet (You'll also be in class with them so if they see you out, that's good). If you want to reinvent yourself, do it! You''re going to meet a bunch of different people who don't know you from a hole in the wall. Just relax and have fun - college is a new experience for everyone. I can seriously go on and on about how you can be whoever you want when you first arrive. And I agree with ^{^} /u/CrushHazard , try and keep your hookups and the DL .. ESPECIALLY if it's a small school, trust me.

10outof1O · 2015-07-23T05:18:40+00:00

Here is what I have to say, just focus on studying and lifting, and developing your own social circle in the first year. Then make sure to stay there for the summer.

During that summer, and the years afterwards is when you should focus on approaching, and getting girls. You first year is very important, and you should seriously take that time to understand the environment that you are living in, and become comfortable.

cmiovino · 2015-07-23T13:07:40+00:00

I'm out of college, but did 5 years total - 2 years for an associate's, 2 more for the bachelor's, and 1 more for the masters.

Community college was a waste social-wise. Great for saving money, social aspect was lame as hell. I'll skip this because I sucked back then.

Bachelors at a public traditional, four year college. I did two years here as a junior and senior. Social circle is key. My roommate was Greek (from Greece, not a frat). He had high charisma and game just naturally. This led to us having many parties and I leeched off his friends somewhat. Use things like this to your advantage.

One MAJOR mistake I did was having a girlfriend through essentially all of college. DON'T DO THIS. Many will tell you the same. College is a time to grow, experiment, and develop you game and life in general. The girl you meet in college, you will most likely not marry. College is the one time in your life when game is easiest. Girls are more than willing to sleep around, go to parties, get drunk, and just have fun... so mutually have fun with them. It should be a fun experience for everyone.

Parties are key. Go to them. You don't need to drink. I'd highly suggest doing what I did and studying your ass off at the library during the day in between classes. Go to every class! Then when Friday afternoon rolls around, you can completely stop studying and don't work, focusing on the social aspect until Monday morning. This will make both your school life and social life 10x better as you can completely detach from the other during the times you should be working or enjoying yourself. Surprisingly, my GPA went up when I did this and enjoyed myself on the weekends more.

Cold approach - do it. On campus, it's easy as everyone has something in common - you all go to the school. It's easy to talk about 'what's your major' or 'what dorm are you in?'... this can also lead to more networking and social circle stuff. Girl invites you to party, you talk with her friends, boom, one of her friends kicks it off with it. Or you can meet more guy friends through it.

Depending on how big your college is, word is probably not going to get around. We had about 8,000 students, half of which were commuters. Word never really got around on things as everyone just operated in their own little worlds. Don't worry about cold approaching. EVERYONE is doing it drunkenly at parties anyways. You think a girl is going to rant and rave about you talking to her at a party or on campus when 20 other dudes are doing the same with, but with much less skill and success? Nope.

Lifting is GREAT to get into. Join clubs too... you meet tons of people through this. Also, the first week or so is CRITICAL and should be treated as an opportunity each year. Week one, you have orientations, are forced to meet people. My 2 roommates and I met up with 4 girls at orientation and ended up staying friends with them both years. One roommate even dated the girl for a while. Many girls and even dudes are there on their own and are looking to build a social circle. Capitalize on this.

My roommates dad said every year they helped the freshman girls move in. Even as a senior. This allowed him to meet girls all the time and know where they live (creepy? ha). But really, it was all about networking. You help someone move in, then say, 'Hey, you're cool. We're having a party tonight, you should come."... boom, in.

In the next month, do these things:

Cold showers - gets you out of your comfort zone, as you will be in college. Helps with cold approach too.
Lift and eat well. In college, you may end up eating like shit... try not to! The freshman 15 is lame. Stand out and be physically attractive.'
Get social if you aren't already. Practice cold approach. Malls, events, whatever since you can't drink yet. Anything to get over crippling approach anxiety if you have it.
Appearance - dress well. Most people dress like shit in college. Stand out by developing a bit of style. New clothes, new shoes, etc all help with confidence.

Absolutely last tip. Drop the I "give a fuck about what others may think" think. I didn't do this and it stunted what I could be. I got over it somewhat... I mean, I really developed into a fun person people wanted to be around as compared to high school and my first two years at community college. But I still cared about what others thought. When we drank and partied, we didn't care about what others thought because all that went away... try to do this naturally and all the time. This is one of the biggest keys to the game I think.

Good luck! 3.

KeyandBox · 2015-07-23T13:17:26+00:00

All awesome comments guys, I really appreciate it, thank you. Time to make college my bitch!

EpictetustheWise · 2015-07-23T13:43:40+00:00

College is almost 100% social networking in terms of getting girls...seriously. Yes, you can indeed get a bad rep for doing the usual 'game' approaches (having conversations is different from running game). The beauty of building a huge social network is that opportunities just fall in your lap with little to no effort...for instance, maybe you get involved in some volunteer group or other student academic or social club, and a girl in there sees you just being social then becomes attracted then wants to hook up...it happens a lot. This dude's journal is probably the best execution I've seen of social game at college: http://www.rsdnation.com/node/135273

I fucked this part up pretty much my first years in school. I worked full-time and commuted to school, so I instead focused on going out and doing game at bars (I wrote about this and how I got more success not doing pick-up: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00XB2I8NU?*Version*=1&*entries*=0). Had success (in terms of numbers of girls not any real happiness with things) but it was way too much effort. When I finally started taking my life seriously and went back to school after dropping out, I made a more concerted effort to be social. Paid huge dividends....even with people I barely knew, I would see them out at bars or events and could parlay that into meeting other people and having longer conversations. Also, I got a ton of girls just by sitting next to them in class and talking, cracking jokes, but never gaming in the usual sense of the word.

For college: Be social as hell (join lots of groups), read everyday and do all the self-improvement that you can, and learn to manage your time (get homework, papers, and studying done early and systematically...you will have more free time to be social and not stress about grades). It's really simple.

chiliehead · 2015-07-23T19:00:55+00:00

Worth reading: "How to conquer your campus" and the top posts about college on seddit.

Yeah, you´re worrying too much, listen to the other guys.

dking168 · 2015-07-23T19:21:45+00:00

Join a frat. College is a social playground and fraternity is an automatic in with the social circle.

TRP_Fraternity · 2015-07-27T02:46:18+00:00

Definitely join a fraternity

Title	College.
Author	KeyandBox
Upvotes	4
Comments	10
Date	July 23, 2015 3:11 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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