[x-post from /r/AlreadyRed]

I'm with a girl who is good material for RP relationship. She spends a great deal of time on me and makes evident effort to make me happy. She is sexually submissive to me and follows my requests for what to wear when I make them. She cooks for me, builds me up and tells me she needs me, etc. In many ways I have this girl wrapped around my finger.

However, something has come up that has seriously challenged my Frame. Did some asking about her past and the main "ex" in her life is a guy who made millions of dollars and has a high-status, important position in the world. (Not a celebrity, but a person who works closely with them, to give you some idea.) The guy is also ~15 years older than me.

Anyway, listened to her hamster about him and she seems to be his "ex" in the sense that he spun her as a plate on and off for years. No comittment or light commitment perhaps, an outright dumping, then years later she tried to get him back while he was married and "separated" from his wife. (I'm sure us RPers will recognize this as more plate-spinning and pump-n-dumping).

So, this brings up a lot of huge red flags in my mind. (1) I am not rich or anywhere near it, in fact I work a low-status job and work on side projects but things have not gone well for me in the last couple of years. (2) I feel like she can't be settling for me for Beta bux since I have none, but maybe she is settling for me for my emotional support? (3) I feel like she will always be an Alpha widow to this guy, based on her trying to get him back even when he is married, and that he could snap his fingers at any time to get her back.

Unfortunately I compromised my own Frame by talking about this guy with her over the weekend. I admitted that it made me feel bad that she had been with this guy who could afford the best hotels and flights to wherever while I'm doing the numbers to make rent every month. (Bad move, I know -- like I say I lost Frame.) During this conversation, she completely freaked out because she thought I was going to leave her over this. She cried and begged me to stay and told me she is in Love with me, that money and all that shit doesn't matter, etc. etc. (Mostly typical girl stuff but the emotion is clearly there that she doesn't want me to leave her. I can't figure out whether that's because she truly loves me or she is just afraid of being abandoned.)

This is almost certainly a bigger issue with my Frame and Inner Game because I don't see how I'll be in a position to compete with a guy of this Status.

TL;DR I'm with a girl who has a high-status, rich ex; not sure how to handle this Frame-wise or whether I should Next.