How to deal with girls who say they only want something serious?

Spacedust_ · 2015-08-17T23:05:24+00:00

Be honest with them, dont lie to get in their pants.

As you wrote in your post, tell them that you are not looking for something too serious. If you didnt find them attractive what is the point of sleeping with them anyways. Be respectful to yourself and keep your standards if thats the issue...

Some experience guys pull the game of being polygamist and tell women that they are also seeing other people but they are 100% with her when she is around him and what he does with his spare time is his business.

Not everyone can do that do though, usually abundance of women and high social status has this perks...

DaygameCoach · 2015-08-18T02:40:27+00:00

Be honest. You should be screening for appropriate women for you, meaning in your case casual ones. No reason to lie and hurt a girl. The ones you want are out there. I wrote about casual vs serious here:

http://www.daygamer.net/2012/07/06/how-to-get-the-right-girlguy-communication-skills-101/

lasvegasfun · 2015-08-18T05:21:20+00:00

No need to lie to them, there are plenty of other attractive girls out there who aren't currently looking for anything serious.

DariusSSfJ · 2015-08-18T08:56:00+00:00

First and foremost - ignore what they say, pay attention to what they do.

That said, the fact that you go up to three days without sleeping with them is an issue in itself, by this point you're naturally falling into the "potential boyfriend" category.

You're saying that you're not looking for anything overly serious, but not pulling at the latest by the second date? That's incongruence.

Go for early pulls (first/second date) and it will naturally screen women, who are not in the same boat as you.

And of course, you shouldn't lie about what you looking for, that's just an invitation for drama.

deathbymidget · 2015-08-18T18:55:41+00:00

You sound like an asshole whos going to lie to girls to get them to fuck you. Thats not what this is all about. If they don't want what you do move on. You wouldn't physically force yourself on them, so why lie to trick them into something they don't want.

WonderBoy59 · 2015-08-18T21:06:49+00:00

So much white knight. Just tell them, honestly, that you don't know what would or could come of this.

Idk why comments all assume you have to lie or its over. It doesn't sound healthy to jump into a relationship every time after a few dates

MGHOW_ATL · 2015-08-20T13:36:02+00:00

They S A Y blahblahblah......

You're not sufficiently Chaddish. These same girls WILL blow Chad in the bathroom after 5 clowny minutes.

It's all about who you want to be.

Good guy -- respect that and seek elsewhere; Chad -- play on

2015-08-17T23:49:02+00:00

Is it better to just say that I might be looking for something serious?

If they're only telling you they want something serious at date 2/3, this doesn't gain you anything.

after second or third dates

You really need to speeding things up. They should know your intentions after the first "date" (don't do traditional dates, especially if you want something casual).

You sound like you are going in with a provider mindset - normal dates (dinner, movie, shows, etc) and are not getting physical early enough (going multiple dates without sex), and that's sending them the message "he may want something serious" instead of "he is for casual sex only."

You need to be more clear right away that you are about casual sex, that you are a sexual being, and that you just want to fuck. If you can do that (with enough value + comfort), a lot of women, even those who want something serious, will accept it (and they can keep looking on the side)

EscapedTheMatrix · 2015-08-18T00:16:32+00:00

"Im just looking to date casually for now. If the right girl comes along and I decide that I want a long term relationship, I may decide to change my mind about casual dating. But I will cross that bridge when I come to it and so far I haven't."

This will let her know of your nonexclusive intentions while simultaneously making her think that she might just be the one who can pin you down (which is essentially what all women want to do to alphas eventually). You didn't tell her this, but she'll tell herself.

Title	How to deal with girls who say they only want something serious?
Author	Dislakg
Upvotes	7
Comments	13
Date	August 17, 2015 10:52 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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