What if my ideal date is cuddling and movie watching?

neverneverland- · 2015-10-12T19:30:28+00:00

We don't expect sex, but we sure as hell want it. Guys are horny literally all the time. Maybe if you take care of that first he'll plop himself down on the couch no problem and watch some Doctor Whoever The Hell with you. Cheers!

rand059192 · 2015-10-12T23:33:23+00:00

I'm a guy and what you described is also what I am looking for. It is interesting that I haven't been able to find a girl who wants something similar.

dramateyez · 2015-10-12T19:21:17+00:00

snuggin out is good times but you have to understand the whole "netflix n chill" era we live in. Guys should never pressure you into having sex, however due to our hormones we pretty much always wanna fuck. If you are wandering into that snug life and teasing a lil too much...thats hard on us. Maybe keep it snuggy but omit anything sexual if you dont wanna go there. Also.....a date or two in before you start that I say for your safety etc. make sure you know who you re with always before you re alone with them. Keep in mind...if you are always down to netflix and chill......why would we ever take you out proper? dont get caught in something lazy.

DaygameCoach · 2015-10-12T19:37:37+00:00

You are sexually escalating men by cuddling them since to men cuddling is on the way (or after) to sex. Plus, many women tell men they aren't going to have sex a particular evening because they don't want it to seem premeditated and then do actually have sex...

Ask far as acting submissive in or out of bed, if it isn't you, don't act that way, because then they will expect it form there on in.

Try asking your question to #fPUA.

WayOfTheGentleman · 2015-10-13T08:20:55+00:00

First of all, you sound great! Any girl wanting to cuddle and cook for me has my approval right from the start.

It's disappointing to see guys complaining about this post and trying to send you to fPUA. A girl is here telling us what she wants from guys! We should be paying attention to this.

I agree with everything you say. You want a man you can invite over and potentially have a nice time and great sex with, but not for him to expect that it's his constitutional right to put his dick inside you just because you invited him to your house. Also you don't want him to think that you're an easy lay and therefore lower value as a result (the dumbest thinking ever, in my view).

Sometimes you get on really well with someone and it happens naturally. Other times you just don't click and you want to reserve the right to not do anything. This is how it should be. No different to going on a date in a bar in my view.

With a high quality guy who gets it, you shouldn't have to verbalise any of this stuff. But it may not be a bad idea to test the water. So if you invite him over for 'netflix and chill' as I believe the cool kids call it these days, you can also add a caveat - 'don't go thinking that means guaranteed sex!' And if he's cool, you'll be able to have a discussion about it. He should actually verbalise a lot of your thoughts around this without you even mentioning it.

Because the guy himself really should be thinking on similar lines - 'Sex would be great, but if I don't like her then it's not going to happen', as opposed to 'I don't like her but I might as well do it anyway'.

Gif_Goldblum · 2015-10-12T20:44:38+00:00

You want a cuddle date, but without romance involved. THAT'S NOT A DATE!

What you want is a cat, not a man.

Why are you going on dates with dudes you aren't attracted to? Hrrr drrr

WTF

ympostor · 2015-10-12T21:40:30+00:00

Would you at least consider masturbating the guy? This way it's a relief for him even if not exactly sex...

Title	What if my ideal date is cuddling and movie watching?
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Date	October 12, 2015 6:59 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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