This is what I've learned after "becoming the best version of myself", just one data point from one guy giving free advice. Take it with a grain of salt.

You’re a human being, experiencing what might be your only lifetime on earth, and once you’re gone you might possibly not exist, ever again, for all eternity (maybe). Think about that. That’s how important it is that your life be as stress free as possible while at the same time getting what you want. How many people are "becoming the best version of yourselves" while in denial that banging chicks is a major motivation for that? That's a recipe for dissatisfaction in life, which you realize after you bag a few hotties. Do what you need to, and then do no more. Above all, stop doing shit that you don't want to do.

Don't put up with shit tests

Just get dates, remember that you guys are tentatively friends. You know that feeling that you might fuck it up? It’s true, and the feeling should be mutual. Especially when it comes to shit tests. Shit tests are disrespectful — they have your demise built into them. What are you Indiana Jones on the quest for the booby-trapped holy pussy grail? Friendly refusal, serious refusal, then gtfo. If a girl annouces that she's in the process of booby trapping her pussy as you speak, don't play unless you really like defusing booby traps months into the relationship. Cleverly prepared responses might get you laid, but it also rewards that behavior.

Don't chase money

Be “successful" enough. Think of the number of doors you close when you don’t have this. Luckily if you make 70k/year in most US cities as a single guy, that should be enough if you're not a diva. If you make more than 70k and don’t love your job, aim for fewer responsibilities, because fuck breaking your back and stressing over something you don’t love. Scale back and build alternate revenue streams instead.

Don't obsess over gains

Be slightly above average body type unless this is what you love. Work out so that you’re not fat, and then work out just a bit more. Anything past ottermode/built-fat can start to become excessive it you don’t love bodybuilding. Why? Past that point, it’s all diminishing returns for you. Putting in inordinate amount of time and effort to gain access to a few shallow bitches that will only fuck with a sculpted god is certifiably insane behavior.

Don't take up new hobbies

Don’t take up any new hobbies. You learned about salsa music when you were 8, yet now you suddenly want to become a flamboyant little salsa dancer and it’s a total coincidence that dumb broads are into that garbage. Really? In fact give up any hobbies that require any actual discipline from you. Do you sometimes think to yourself “Boy, I’ve been scratching my balls and browsing reddit all weekend. I really need to practice guitar more often!”, fuck practicing guitar, if it doesn’t make you happy to practice every day, don’t do it. Work on your career instead, if that’s taken care of, get some weed to smoke while you scratch your balls and browse reddit.