What to Do When You're Afraid to Approach Her

Mathieulombardi · 2016-02-29T20:04:02+00:00

I appreciate the format and the way it's written. It's a simple message about overcoming fear by reason. I'll have the same problem soon. I'm going to NYC from a small town of 7000 ( a year for work). I'm going for 3 weeks and all I can think about is the fear of failure after being away from NYC for 3+ years.

ImJustSo · 2016-03-01T02:31:37+00:00

"Introverted alpha" . Calm.

Picture of donuts is the article's first picture.

What to do when you're bullshittin about being an introverted alpha? Follow a girl around with a fishing pole and hang a donut from the line in front her her. Problem fuckin solved.

Bacon_Crispies · 2016-03-01T03:10:33+00:00

I know it's not much, but I've been trying to get myself out of my shell with talking to women little by little.

ladyboii · 2016-03-01T03:45:28+00:00

You can't reason fear away as its unreasonable to even have it to begin with. Instead take action as this will help get you into your body and out of your head.

IlludedDelusionist · 2016-03-01T10:54:26+00:00

My problem is not approaching, but what do I say? "Hello!" "Hello? Who are you?" "I'm IlludedDelusionist" "So?" OR "I'm RandomFemaleName" And then.. What? Anything after that would feel weird or forced. I tried it once and got "So?" version, had to awkwardly walk away from that silence.

BlazeXIII · 2016-03-01T15:50:30+00:00

Observe her with peripheral vision. Approach anyways. Smile. Make positive comments in how she's dressed or decorated herself. Listen to what she has to say. She might open up about where she got the stuff, or if she's wearing her favorite shirt/shoes/purse whatever. The more nouns she gives you the more potential thread directions you can take the conversation to. Shift the convo to what you enjoy about the current venue. Listen again to what she has to say. Flow off of what comments she says. Shift the convo to the great food you had for dinner. Listen to what she has to say, flow off what she says. Take the situational context into mind aswell, if she's waiting for friends then you can take her number to text her later to hit up a venue, or event, or if you're already at a small venue, you can tell her you have to get back to your friends, and you'll catch her later. If the conversation is on, and both of you are really into it, no rush in ending the convo.

BlazeXIII · 2016-03-01T16:04:28+00:00

In regards to the article, I don't focus on my fear to take action, I focus on Results, and what I want to achieve in my life, as the direction I head in, that way fear is just a part of the obstacles I will overcome.

Positive perspective. I can brighten up her day when I speak with her, she could be hoping, and wishing for someone like me to approach and introduce myself to her. She's so lucky that I'm going to speak with her. I will bless her life with my knowledge, skill set, and experience.

I create the moments in life I want to see happen. I am The Cause of chain of events. I am a Force of Nature. I have Universal power within me. When I act decisively, it is the right moment.

I'm a fit man, I take care of my body, I exercise consistently, and deliberately. I intentionally sculpt my body, as I intentionally sculpt my life. I am my life's Architect.

I can bless this girl with a ton of Utility. Knowledge Utility, Skill Utility, Experience Utility, Social Utility, and that Utility has immeasurable value for many people already, she will be so lucky to taste, and potentially have some of that value, if she doesn't mess it up for herself.

Takeaway, irrespective of how she behaves, or speaks, I am still a highly valuable man.

StartingARoll · 2016-03-03T03:20:28+00:00

I read this today and actually used it tonight. It must have been what I needed to read, because I really focused on the ideas the article described and it worked. I talked to a girl I had ridden an elevator with before and got her number.

I kept assuming that she was attracted to me, but kept in mind that if I didn't approach her, we would both miss out on an opportunity. I stuttered, had awkward body language, and wasn't very smooth, but that's not what gets results. The act of approaching itself gets results.

IlludedDelusionist · 2016-02-29T23:03:40+00:00

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Title	What to Do When You're Afraid to Approach Her
Author	gradcasanova
Upvotes	200
Comments	27
Date	February 29, 2016 5:01 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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