Need some encouragement

alex0919 · 2016-07-16T00:41:41+00:00

You're depressed and in scarcity, you need to start cultivating a more abundant life whose backbone isn't based on validation by women.

Why do you want someone who doesn't want you? That seems so illogical, doesn't it?

Find someone you want and find interesting that feels the same way, while simultaneously investing in yourself and building boundaries.

Stop thinking you'll get another chance, paradoxically she might come around again if you just believe GRANDMA'S DEAD she's not coming back, so stop wishing and hoping and letting her mentally imprison you from taking action.

M_Knight1 · 2016-07-16T14:14:19+00:00

Most young males operating in a scarcity mindset catch the disease Oneitis at some point in their young adult lives. If not promptly caught and cured, Oneitis can take years away from one’s life. You can pour all your time and energy into a lost cause instead of using it to improve yourself. Having suffered myself from a very dire case of the disease, I am accustomed to the symptoms. The symptoms of Oneitis can include:

 Spending an abnormal amount of time thinking and obsessing over one girl.

 Believing that one girl is completely different from every other girl that you have ever met.

 Believing that one girl is the most beautiful girl in the world.

 Believing that there is no other girl for you but her.

 Believing that no one else could ever match the love that you have for a girl.

 Believing that a girl is absolutely perfect and could do no wrong in your eyes.

 Putting a girl before everything else in your life.

An additional symptom would include not seeing anything wrong with holding the above beliefs. You may believe that if a girl only truly knew how much you cared about her, that she would love you in return. However, this is not the way attraction or love actually works. When you truly love a person, you do not need anything from them in return. Arriving at this realization took me years and was the most painful lesson that I have ever had to learn. There is no such thing as “the one,” but only people who are more or less compatible together. Love is something you build, not something you find.

While I have no doubt that the feelings which you have are genuine, these feelings originate from a place of scarcity and fear. You may mistake the burning desire you have for a woman as the being the truest form of love. Fear resulting from scarcity infiltrates the heart and amplifies certain emotions to an unhealthy level. If this is the first time that you have ever felt this way, then you may be terrified of losing the woman for whom you feel these feelings. You may fear that you may never again feel this same way about anyone else. The truth is that you may be right. However, this is not due to you having lost out on the love of your life, but to the fact that you no longer live in scarcity. Once the scarcity mindset is removed, you can find someone with whom you can have a relationship with that is built on positive emotions, instead of the hidden underlying emotions of loneliness and fear.

Now looking back, having my heart broken was one of the best things that could have ever happened to me. Had a need based relationship instead ensued, I would have never become the person I am today. I would have unknowingly submitted to comfort and security rather than venturing out into the world to learn its truths for myself. I would have remained a weak man and never developed the deep self-love, self-confidence and self-reliance which are prerequisites to unselfishly loving another person.

The above passage is an excerpt from the book: Fundamentals of Female Dynamics

PiperTheGreat · 2016-07-16T04:32:19+00:00

I was once in your shoes, I understand how that's felt. It hurts. But today, right now. I'm totally indifferent and I want to help you find that indifference.

First things first, the way that I became indifferent is over a girl. I was so attached too the outcome of having her. I Needed her. Sound similar. It's a good thing this is happening if you keep pushing you'll come out a much better man.

What fuels indifference is a bigger picture, more woman and just an indifferent mentality.

Let's start with the bigger picture. I'm pretty confident to assume you don't have a vision for yourself. You don't want something bigger than a girl. Once you get that huge vision girls don't matter. The vision does. And with that comes woman.

More woman and indifferent mentality are similar. It's a paradox that you've gotta deal with. The way you get more woman is by already having them. The way you do this is by internally knowing your in demand, your external world soon follows. Your mentality should also be "what ever happens, happens".

In all honesty you cannot become indifferent overnight. It takes time and experience. I can bet that in 3 months from now your indifference muscle will be sky high.

I'm also gonna help you with some mindsets.the main reason your failing with this girl has nothing to do with your game. It has everything to do with how the interaction is going. "She got tired of me" "she decided that I wasn't what she was looking for". That tells me your selling yourself to her. Instead ask yourself this. "Is she good enough for me." "Why should I like this girl" "is she up to MY standards" reframe the situation. That should be your mentality with ALL girls.

You have a long way to go, but that's okay. Just keep FUCKING GOING. However long it takes.

More info: Affirmations are Powerful. Loop some indifference affirmations like "I don't need a thing, I'm already fucking awesome" or "whatever happens happens" or "I don't need a girl". That's a good starting point.

If you have any questions feel free to ask.

Title	Need some encouragement
Author	Mr_Brightside01
Upvotes	3
Comments	5
Date	July 15, 2016 11:22 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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