Obsessed. Using sex for validation. Can't focus.

that-freakin-guy · 2016-07-23T21:27:55+00:00

It's normal. I was getting laid constantly for the first few years because I finally had access to something I never had before. I wanted to sleep with everyone: Asian, black, blonde, brunette, etc. I did just that and it was awesome. Eventually it got old and I started dating around more seriously.

Same rules applied, always escalate and ways assume attraction, use kino, etc. But eventually I got to a point where I met someone and it stuck around.

Enjoy being single and getting laid, and get serious when you're ready.

LeRick11 · 2016-07-23T16:59:56+00:00

21 year old here who's currently in a 7 months and going relationship. After learning the art of seduction I've seduced a lot of women sometimes without even being aware. It's a quite difficult thing to get over but my inner drive for a genuine connection and to settle down made it easy to knock the habit. I still see women who I find attractive but I don't chase them, I focus my sexual drive on my gf. For you, you'll have to figure out what's important to you is it the meaningless sex, a genuine connection or building a business.

Big_TX · 2016-07-23T17:04:47+00:00

Maybe get a girlfriend so you have more time and energy to build the business and have access to steady sex ?

The majority of millionaires (can't remember the percentage) were alread married. Not chasing tail gives you more time and energy to focus on your business.

I'm not advocating you get married. But I don't understand your adversion to getting a gf. If you don't want to be celibate That's seams like the best option as long as you get a high quality girl.

McBEAST · 2016-07-23T22:27:18+00:00

Reading your posts makes me think your confidence has turned into an ego.

Woujo · 2016-07-24T00:09:39+00:00

However, I cannot stop chasing women. I am seeing a few women at the minute on and off. Sex, attention - none of this is satiating me. I just want more and I want to see how far I can take this.

The solution to this is to go cold turkey. Don't cut off women completely, but create boundaries for yourself that are strictly enforced (for example, only go out 1-2 nights a week, don't stay out past a certain hour, etc...). You're going to lose a lot of opportunities, but you need to keep your eye on a bigger prize than just women.

As you grow, mature and get better with women, you realize that being able to fuck women, even super hot ones, is that an impressive of a skill. There are a lot more important pursuits in life.

Psychocist · 2016-07-23T22:21:17+00:00

No offense, but it's a bit late to "build a business" and that's a very vague statement. If you don't have the collateral to lease land, rent a store, and buy merchandise then you're forced to take a loan with interest and good luck finding a bank that gives personal loans to startup businesses. In business class they taught us majority of people start their own business at around age 25-30 with less people starting younger, and older than that age gap. It's going to be competitive at work. If you can't focus and get off the phone you're going to lose that sale to Joe Smo across the street who can talk to a customer without looking at his phone.

You're probably stuck in the cycle. There's a lot of social status that goes along with having hot chicks at your side. In the TV shows and movies everything always works out for the guy with the cute girl at his side- he makes more money, he's smarter, he wins against the bad guy.

If you weren't doing it on Tinder, and you had your own business you'd be doing the same thing- working longer hours to get that extra dollar to buy that fine hooker. Wait until you go on a few bad dates it will set you straight and you'll find something else to do with your time.

Title	Obsessed. Using sex for validation. Can't focus.
Author	Psychocist
Upvotes	13
Comments	19
Date	July 23, 2016 2:11 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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