Studying seduction fucked my up my life. How do I fix this?

revente · 2016-12-02T04:18:01+00:00

Then you are at a very early stage of learning it. Once you are decent confidence will come naturally without acting fake and youll be in the moment instead of anylysing stuff.

crashinghorizons · 2016-12-02T03:35:36+00:00

Could you explain a little bit more about how trying to seduce people has lost you friends? I can't seem to link them in my head

Kuwait_Infidel · 2016-12-02T04:16:56+00:00

Look up a podcast called "Art of charm", it helped me a ton, listen to it.

wannagetbaked · 2016-12-02T05:31:06+00:00

Relax and breathe. Give regular meditation a try.

JoRocKStaR · 2016-12-02T05:52:29+00:00

have more experiences. period.

ozzagahwihung · 2016-12-02T10:20:52+00:00

You remembered facts but learnt nothing.

Seduction isn't something you can learn from a book like mathematics or spelling. It's not a computer that gives a certain outcome based on your input.

Seduction is a learning journey through life. It is different for everyone. You can't expect to succeed by doing what someone does. You need to find your own path. It is a process of self-exploration and reflection. You learn about girls by learning about yourself.

It is about finding your place and growing comfortable in your own skin. If all you've done is simply read blogs and tried to do what other people did, you missed the point.

It's not about getting sex. It's about self development and generating attractions.

Kitt_55 · 2016-12-02T12:48:42+00:00

The primary issue is that you have become reaction seeking. You have studied in-depth the topic of pick-up, so now you feel you need to implement some form of it in every interaction.

It's one of the catch-22s of pick-up, you learn what women find attractive, then try to actively replicate that behavior. But since your actions are made for the specific reason of having the girl like you, you are not outcome independent, which makes the girl like you less.

I would take a month off of trying to get "results," and just focus on meeting new people and being social.

If you want a description of all the core social principles, so you don't get overwhelmed by the secondary or superfluous stuff, check out:

Fundamentals of Female Dynamics by Michael Knight

Umbrifer · 2016-12-02T15:48:27+00:00

Relax and have fun with it man. You've made your success the only thing that matters when you used to enjoy the experience. Forget about "winning". Just play the game.

NullCorp · 2016-12-02T05:01:49+00:00

If I may make a suggestion to your problem - Quit trying to seduce people and just let them come to you. If they aren't coming to you, focus your energy on becoming the guy they want to come to because you're physically, socially, and financially attractive.

Title	Studying seduction fucked my up my life. How do I fix this?
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Date	December 2, 2016 3:15 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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