I figured it out

salvataz · 2016-12-18T19:26:29+00:00

Take that fear and let it instead be your excitement. Like learning to love roller coasters or scary movies. I think what you are referring to is literally the thrill of sexual tension. Don't suppress or run away from it. Do that scary thing you're not sure about. Enjoy the following suspense in anticipation rather than insecurity. "I can't wait to see what she writes back" vs "oh shit I'm a dumbass, she's not saying anything, blaggghh".

You don't want to end up with a girlfriend that was easy because you weren't really that into her. The people you really want will always make you nervous just because you really like them.

Captain__Backfire · 2016-12-19T00:42:58+00:00

It matters very little what you actually say to her and more what your intentions behind those words are. This is why if you make a stupid joke to her she will likely laugh or be very reactive to it if she's into you.

This doesn't mean that she's not paying attention to the words you are saying, but it does mean that she will likely feel as nervous during the conversation as you and will be focusing more on what she's doing and not what you're doing, only really trying to figure out your intentions (i.e. if you like her back).

ADP_God · 2016-12-18T21:46:23+00:00

I went from no kissing to approximately 20 girls in two years and I still can't work this one out. In all my time I've only pulled one, at a stretch two (she was into me before I liked her) girls that I actually liked and tried for, rather than having them come to me. My only suggestion would be not to think about them any differently, although I know how hard that is, and to not worry about being super special or funny in the moment because the chances are that you will be without focusing on it. Good luck!

EnlightenedAddict · 2016-12-18T18:38:46+00:00

You're not polarizing. I don't have the time to explain in detail, but basically, you need to push her boundaries just enough to find out if she's into you or not.

luuk0987 · 2016-12-19T01:25:20+00:00

In my experience women are a lot more attracted to you when you don't show obvious signs of interested. Just think about what all the bad things about this girl are before talking to her to maybe sway your thoughts from being anxious to being yourself around girls you don't particularly like.

Title	I figured it out
Author	Steezy-T
Upvotes	53
Comments	18
Date	December 18, 2016 4:28 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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