How do you get a girl to lose weight in a way where she won't resent you?

square-one · 2014-09-22T04:07:52+00:00

Tell her that you go running a lot and she should join you as a motivational partner. Something along those lines that gets you both exercising as a fun paired activity.

Easier to do if you're in a relationship as opposed to a plate but once she sees you as a fitness role model she should begin to be more conscious about the weight and want to lose it for you.

If she is just utterly lazy and doesn't have the willpower then it may be the best course of action to just next them.

cascadecombo · 2014-09-22T07:19:28+00:00

live in asia, the girls will soft shame her thin

MrMagwitch · 2014-09-22T10:15:59+00:00

The most effective way to help a girl lose weight is breaking up with her.

I have seen amazing weight loss after years of "oh my god, I can't lose weight no matter how hard I try" that put some photoshopped before/after ads to shame. They were working hard for the return to the cc.

Ok...not a practical approach but shows that most of the I can't lose weight stories are bullshit.

As for your question, yes it's possible. I have never tried it myself but know girls who were pressured by their boyfriends to lose weight and they had incredible results.

There have been some posts about this at trp already. Basics are: Your smv has to be high enough related to hers that she is willing to change in order to be with you. And you don't tell her to lose weight or pressure her...you lead her. Don't expect her to figure it all out. She will probably try to lose belly fat by doing sit-ups or some other stupid shit.

AlphaAsFAQ · 2014-09-22T04:50:14+00:00

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zyk0s · 2014-09-22T05:34:50+00:00

Yes, but where a woman should use femininity, a man must use a more masculine approach. No beating around the bush, no being afraid of hurting her feelings, just state the plain truth: "girl, you're really fun, but there is something you need to change in your habits if you want me to stay interested".

Then one of two things happen. Either she's gets offended and leaves, in that case good riddance, because she herself has no will and any efforts on your part would have been in vain, something something about leading a horse to water. Or, she gets a little hurt, but ultimately respects your honesty and your frame, realizes that she is not quite happy with the way she looks but simply lacks some discipline on a day-to-day basis.

That's when you come in and, on the one hand firmly let her know you won't go soft and give her a pass, but on the other make her realize that you're there to help her out with it. But of course, this works if you hold frame and if you're not overweigh or completely out of shape yourself, you need to lead by example.

stickfiguresk · 2014-09-22T09:49:25+00:00

I'm really disapointed in the support shown in the comments. Guys who've been personal trainers or have just tried to train their friends know that that level of change can't come from the outside. It comes from within. You may as well try changing a fat person's religion and politics too. It's pointless.

To answer: fat is excess energy. She needs to put down the fork. It's no more complicated than that. Anything about carbs, meal frequency, or exercise will just make it more difficult for a newbie. Google TDEE, BMI, Briffault's Law, and caloric deficit.

GenericallyEpic · 2014-09-22T04:27:20+00:00

I'd say try to get them to join a fun hobby with you like surfing, boxing, parkour, or something that is exercise but doesn't come off as it.

LibertarianLibertine · 2014-09-22T13:04:47+00:00

No, because they're lazy as fuck, hence the fat. Máybe if you're in a LTR with a fatty, you can pull her along and get her to eat less chocolate and icecream, but why would you start a LTR with a fatty that just takes time and will dump you once she's hot anyway?

AllMenDrip · 2014-09-22T15:11:56+00:00

If a young woman is fat now, imagine what it will be like after she's pregnant.

slurmfactory · 2014-09-22T15:27:29+00:00

dont waste your time.

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bsutansalt · 2014-09-22T18:31:56+00:00

In a word, no. Your best bet is to simply associate with demographics of women who are already fit/hot. Sure you could inspire a woman to change, but it's long-haul stuff and there's no guarantee you'll be the one who benefits.

never_replies_ever · 2014-09-22T21:47:27+00:00

I have this exact problem. I'm coming off of a huge weight loss, and I can't quite pull down the hotties yet.

I'm down 64 pounds and started running my game on fat girls. I still have about 40 pounds to lose. I have a plate that was stupid hot, but she gave up on herself as the wall was approaching.

Whenever we hang out, I tell her about my workouts and how much I've lost (8 pounds this week after a month plateau). She says she wants to get back on the treadmill. She hasn't done it yet despite her apartment complex having a gym with a treadmill.

I've run out of ideas on how to inspire her, so I'm just going to tell her to go fucking run or I'm not coming around anymore. I expect an argument, shit storm, or crying. But fuck it, I believe she wants a leader to help her navigate life.

Maybe it's a BP hangover, but I like her as a person and would consider the ltr if she made permanent changes.

intelcorei5 · 2014-09-23T02:27:32+00:00

You don't convince a girl to do anything without using her feelings.

Having a logical conversation never works.

Whether you use resentment or some other emotion is your call. Resentment makes it sound so permanent. She'll forget about the push as soon as you use pull.

Title	How do you get a girl to lose weight in a way where she won't resent you?
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Date	September 22, 2014 3:35 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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