Im so confused on this part of game. Some people say you should ask and if she dosnt want its over. Others say you should say something like "Im going to x place, you can join if you want". What is the difference other than "you dont come across as needy". I find if better if i write something like "Would you like to join me for a coffee tommorow? It is ok too if you are not interested.". Your opinion on this? Thank you.