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[–]BassDripz 9 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
Nice job man, gym pickup can be challenging.
[–]neverskiplegday13 points 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Thank you! The gym is my sanctuary and I always tell myself not to game girls there. This one just happened to fall into place nicely. I guess it was a good lesson in 'always be ready.'
[–]MonkeyFist4150 3 points4 points5 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thats the great thing about being older, you are more mature and so is she. You both know what you want in life and its reflected in your dating habits.
[–]kalolilo 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Very good.
Next time, more kino escalation.
[–]UndidIridium 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Good job. Don't 'force' the situation to score a lay via whatever PUA escalation techniques or whatever else have you. That's being outcome dependent. Understand that you are currently at a point of whatever it is you have going with her, where it's up to her to make it happen. So, just keep doing what you've been doing, as clearly you've been doing the right things, and have fun with it.
[–]Woujo 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sounds like she's into you. Good job.
Just don't be needy and you'll be fine.
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[–]neverskiplegday11 point 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Sort of, thanks for following up! I knew her travel schedule was pretty packed starting the week right after we went out and I've been keeping myself occupied with other things, actually hitting some big milestones at work and at the gym. I've also reconnected with some old friends that I alienated a bit during my previous relationship, which is a big plus. As far as the girl, I've texted her very sparingly and received positive responses from her - We normally text for logistics only, so I didn't want to force things and seem too eager/needy. Things do calm down for her next week, so that's when I'll see her next and have a better feel for where this is headed. I'm anxious to find out but at the same time, I'm getting to a good place in life, which is an even bigger win.
[–]erebraeller 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I really, really don't like her "busy schedule"
[–]andrewgore96 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Regardless of that though, as first dates go, this is pretty good.
[–]sconosciuto1 9 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
Whatever you do DO NOT develop "oneitis" - there are many amazing girls out there. Don't be needy it's disgusting.
Make sure you are also in demand, make sure you get calls or texts from girls while you are with her. (do you catch my drift?) look up "pre-selection theory". Cancel meeting because something just came up. You are a man with options too.
What do you want ? FWB ? Girlfriend? Whatever it is, you will not be a priority, her schedule and her will dictate when you two will meet.
[–]neverskiplegday12 points 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
These are great reminders - thank you! Probably the biggest reason why I won't be texting her while she's away is not wanting to show neediness. I do have a busy schedule and a life as well, so while I'm willing to be accommodating I'm not about to let her call the shots (the first date was actually set up more in line with my schedule). As far as what I want, I'm not sure to be honest. She seems like a catch, but jumping into something right after 6 years doesn't seem like the best idea.
I'm not too worried about the busy schedule to be honest. She travels a lot for work and it checks out. The crappy part will be dealing with it at the beginning while the anxiety is high, but I don't see it being an issue down the road.
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