Cancelled dates, where am I going wrong?

Fuzzy-Bottle-4138 · 2024-03-01T23:24:51+00:00

Is it actually firm plans? Like you text her on Thursday asking her availability for the the weekend. She says she’s free Saturday night. You say “cool, let’s meet at X spot at X time.” And then she says yes and then cancels on the day of the date?

Or are you just making a vague suggestion that you should hang out that weekend? And is it for a week or later down the line?

That is definitely not normal to have that many girls cancel firm plans.

Electrical_Formal755 · 2024-03-02T09:54:51+00:00

maybe youre not drawing enough interest from the instagram- maybe you might have poor quality photos that could be putting women off: https://mindful-masculinity.org/2020/10/18/the-complete-instagram-and-social-media-guide-for-dating-and-relationships/ wrote a guide to instagram photos here . If you post interesting stories it can be a way to rehook flakes too.

Also the thing about online game is its a flakely business, i got most of my success in game from cold approaching and found it got me a lot less flakes as women seem more invested after once they actually got to know me initially and found i was confident enough to approach them

-antinous- · 2024-03-02T00:16:28+00:00

You are probably asking for a date too early without establishing good rapport

minecraftgodaki29 · 2024-05-03T09:18:35+00:00

I’d love to go with you

topsy_here · 2024-03-02T04:13:51+00:00

IMO. You should not speak much at all after getting their insta/number. Save it for the date.

Phone is for setting dates only.

I prefer insta over WhatsApp as you can see insta stories and makes it easier to come up with unique openers / engage in interesting topics.

if it's normal conversation then 5 responses max before setting the date. Otherwise if it's flowing well then you can speak more.

I usually ask by saying "Friday, we going out".

Or "I'm coming to pick you up on Friday ".

Then set the time.

If they cancel without offering a reschedule then say "ahh sucks, looks like you gotta make it up to me then".

Then don't respond at all. Let them chase you as they are the ones who wasted their opportunity.

Move on and speak to 2/3 other girls

Pyroftw3 · 2024-03-02T09:36:20+00:00

If they want to reschedule tell them to come to your place.

There are just stupid girls wanted attention with never meeting up.

If they are older like 26+ they might be like "OKG THIS GUY DIDN'T TALK TO ME ENOUGH BEFORE DATE" i had few like this, this is better to be dodged anyway because theyd waste your time, i usually insult them and block them.(i do it because they had probably heaps of simps which say "okay baby no problem", men are the problem for tolerating this behavior and girls get no reprocutions and a second chance)

I dated my girl for 3 months and she canceled last second evening before(we supposed to meet in morning) i completely blocked her because this was second time she did that(she was 21)

if they below 23 they are just disorganized and thats normal... for girls their age.

second thing, they were medium/low interest, if she very into you there is no way she will want to lose this opportunity to meet you.

Westernation · 2024-03-02T09:57:10+00:00

Bit of both, probably.

You need to move to former ground. Don’t be afraid to text this when a woman weasels out on you:

‘Hokay - back to the Loch with you, Nessie!’

And then you move on to the next.

Jironasaurus · 2024-03-02T11:23:04+00:00

Whatever you're doing on text is not working. We can't tell for sure what the problem is, unless you show us how you're texting your matches.

TRTGymBro · 2024-03-02T13:03:57+00:00

A few questions:

What does "I'll chat on the apps" means? You need to be specific here. Post an example of a recent conversation that ended up in a flake.

Second, don't ask women when they are free. It's much better to set the frame early on that they are the ones dating you ("when are you are free" communicates "I really want to date you and will play along with your availability, because let's face it, I can make myself free anytime for a pretty girl like you"). Say "I'm free Wednesday or Thursday. Let's go out for a drink and get to know each other better". Let her say if she is okay with one of the days. Let her change her schedule for you. If she is not, suggest the week after. Asking for their schedule already makes you appear as a needy guy.

Finally, you are being way too accommodating and nice to women so early on. This is the classic mistake of guys, because they make sex and pussy the prize instead of their values and self respect. Honestly, I think women have a 6th sense about these things and can figure out a man like that pretty quickly. If she cancels last minute there is no "okay no worries let me know when you want to reschedule". That's like someone spitting in your face and you saying "oh, is it raining, I guess I should have brought an umbrella, but no big deal to get a little wet".

Title	Cancelled dates, where am I going wrong?
Author	Auckboy
Upvotes	6
Comments	22
Date	March 1, 2024 11:13 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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