How much does a bad reputation impact?

norwegiandoggo · 2024-02-06T08:41:46+00:00

This is a seduction subreddit. Why do you care of the staff of your local bar don't seem to like you, if you don't have a goal to seduce any of them? This post seems to be more that you're upset that the bar staff doesn't like you than having to do with seduction.

Just go hit on women outside of this local bar. Or don't hit on staff. Problem solved.

Reputation matters a great deal. Although some women are attracted to men with a bad reputation, as they find it interesting / dangerous / exciting, most women stay away from men with a bad reputation. This is why going to the same place over and over to hit on women is a bad idea in the long run - unless it's a location that constantly has new people in it.

MrAnonPoster · 2024-02-06T13:28:01+00:00

If you tend to have diarrhea dont have it where you eat or drink

jwaters0122 · 2024-02-06T17:09:28+00:00

this post has nothing to do with seduction, since your main issue is that the staff at that place make you uncomfortable.

I suggest you find somewhere else to spend your time in if it bothers you that much.

If I were you, I could not care less what the staff thinks of me. just serve me my coffee, take my money and STFU. as long as they are not rude to you and vice versa, it should be fine.

But in a "seduction" case, a bad reputation can definitely not work in your favor. Women very often ask for others opinions of what somebody is like and more often than not, they will not give the benefit of the doubt and believe the rumors.

just like a good reputation can easily win over their admiration.

Sudden-Conference-65 · 2024-02-06T12:30:18+00:00

Bring some of these external women to the bar with you so they see you have stuff going on in your life.

You sure you’re not keen on the girls there or haven’t done anything? Why would this bother you then 🤷‍♂️

Jolly-Jaguar8664 · 2024-02-06T12:30:59+00:00

A regular would normally have some status at a bar, just from being there, staff would treat him better not worse, even if he is an unusual guy. For some reason you fail to authentically connect to the staff. There will be something in the way you behave/think that has created that situation. It could be something, you are not aware of, that only is relevant in that specific conditions.
Maybe the conditions to work there are not that great, so staff tends to be in a rather negative mood. You would interpret it as being about you and give off weird signals as a reaction, leading to a snowball effect, with a misunderstanding at its center. If you react too insecure/weird/odd to their behavior, it could be that you create the gossip as a self filling prophecy
Other people and deep connections help us to calibrate our behavior and ways of thinking. Acquiring good friends will improve your whole outlook on life and your chances
So what do you do in this concrete story? In such situations you don't pull back, you do the opposite and move forward. If someone treats you impolite in a tangible way, you should call the other person out. Ask why they are acting that way. If what they are doing is more subtle, so asking would not work, you should make sure that you take up your space, but with a positive frame. You would talk more, open up more, have more spatial proximity to the person, which who you sense that tension. Either there was no problem at all, meaning you finally connect to the person in a better way, or you at least bring the problem more to light. So you either manage to overturn the other with positivity or you force them to do something, that you can call them out upon, to finally know what is going on

JRolly11 · 2024-02-06T12:54:46+00:00

Keep it cool bro. Go out and talk to people about anything that wouldn’t run anyone off. Just be chill.

drewsephrringo · 2024-02-07T01:08:27+00:00

If you spend a lot of time there and they do that I'd wager you did something to illicit that. My tab at a local bar here is labeled as the feral guy (I don't say I'm drunk just that I'm feral) and the girls that work there still love me or at the very least are outwardly kind and sociable. If that location makes you feel uneasy approaching or talking to people just go elsewhere. Sometimes there are places you just don't vibe well with.

Fuzzy-Bottle-4138 · 2024-02-06T14:57:51+00:00

First of all, aren’t there tons of other places to meet women where you live other than this one single coffee shop? You can just use this as a place of work and meet women in a million other ways.

Also you’re just talking about the employees of the shop. Random women that come into the shop have no idea who you are or know anything about you. So I don’t even see how any of this matters unless you’re only trying to hit on the workers there. In which case reputation does matter a lot since they work together and talk all of the time. But then again, you can also just not try to hit on the employees of this bar and meet millions of other women.

I just don’t see what the issue is here or why you’re spending so much time worrying about it.

Title	How much does a bad reputation impact?
Author	SafeShirt6
Upvotes	3
Comments	19
Date	February 6, 2024 8:38 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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