How do I fuck her like a man, and actually INITIATE stuff?

Morokweng · 2017-07-19T15:00:40+00:00

Don't use the girl's orgasm as a form of validation for yourself. If you make her orgasms about you, she'll feel pressured to perform and she'll have a harder time letting loose and actually having one, and she'll fake them just to avoid hurting your ego. You make your enjoyment the priority and let her take care of yourself. As long as you're open to honest communication you should be able to help each other have a good time.

Girls generally have a harder time orgasming just from penetration, usually some clit stimulation is required. So going down on her is a good idea anyway.

In regards to initiating or getting physical, you can't be afraid of that shit. Its better to go too far and be told to slow down than to not go as far as she wants. Girls aren't made out of chalk, they're tough, she doesn't want any sensual bullshit, she doesn't want you to dip your cock in and stir it around like you're mixing cookie dough, pin her down and give her a good hard seeing to and she'll fucking tell you if she wants you to slow down. Also don't take her asking you to stop or back off as a personal attack, honest communication is important and should be rewarded.

Also pulling of hair, choking and spanking are all usually good for girls who like it rough, try things out, see how she responds, calibrate appropriately. As I said its better to be told to back off than to not go far enough. And remember, this is not an intellectual exercise, you have more than 3.5 million years worth of hardwired instinct that knows exactly how to fuck a girl, let it do its work and give your higher brain functions a break.

This is a good reason to do cardio btw.

Ragnrok · 2017-07-19T22:24:57+00:00

Kiss her

Grab her

Lift her up

Drop (slam works) her onto the bed

Tear her clothes off like they're hiding Rick and Morty season 3

Fuck her like you hate her

No, seriously, fuck her like you literally want her to die and the only way you're allowed to kill her legally is with your penis.

All in order, in relatively quick succession.

GrandMasterStevey · 2017-07-19T20:14:17+00:00

If you have a routine and you both know when and how you're gonna fuck , mix it up. Set up a really intense and passionate make out with a joke , a story, or your wit. Depending if she's more physical or emotional, go faster or slower, in terms of taking clothes off , escalating, etc.

Tease they fuck out of her before you even go down on her. Kiss her neck, breath in her ear and make a path from her head to her toes with your tongue. Optional: suck on her toes and kiss her feet (some aren't into that but it turned my ex on hard) . Before taking off her panties kiss all around her inner thighs, as long and as passionate as possible. Her mind will be like "just please fuck me already". Start like her pussy through her panties a bit . Take them off and repeat more teasing. Then when she's begging you to start, you hesitate a moment , and eat that pussy like a fucking pig. Start slow and slowly move fast and add fingers. After 5-10 min of this. Tease her with dick, rub it around her thighs and stomach. Rub it on her vagina but don't put it in. Put the just the tip in a couple times and then slowly insert self . Start slow, move faster , and don't forget to repeat part one of foreplay. Figure out her favorite positions and talk a little dirty.

Kinda gross and in depth but hope it helps haha

Lambdal7 · 2017-07-19T14:46:45+00:00

Read the sex god method. It will change your life.

Ragondux · 2017-07-19T15:02:07+00:00

First don't worry, you don't have to try a lot of positions. Sometimes you're not going to bring her to orgasm, that's also expected. As long as you're relaxed and attentive to how she reacts you're going to be fine.

And do things in whatever order you want, there are no rules.

If she wants it rough, you can try, during missionary, to take her hands and bring them above her head. Hold them both with one hand (and the weight of your body) and continue what you were doing. It's easy, not threatening but very hot for women.

If she likes that, you can then try to hold her throat with one hand (but don't strangle her unless she asks).

Then of course you can also try doggy style.

Schroef · 2017-07-19T21:03:14+00:00

You seem really focused on her.

What do you want to do? Are you saying you have no preferences? Which positions do you like?

What she probably wants is for you to do what you like. And use her for that.

2017-07-19T19:42:46+00:00

Books about sex are usually written by people who don't get s lot of sex. The karma sutra was written by a Virgin for example.

The best thing to do is encourage dialogue. Don't get so caught up in the act of having sex you shut down other parts of your brain.

Ask a woman what she likes a prefers. It's that simple. Size matters, if you don't have size learn how to eat pussy. Women can get off in many ways and for the most part they are happy with any orgasm they can get. Men are usually the ones hung up on if the dick made her climax or not.

If you have plenty of dick, stamina is the key. I get good grades because I last longer than most. I am multi orgasmic and I don't go limp after busting a nut. If you can't do that, do whatever you can to hold off that load. Even stopping for a few seconds to get composure.

Those are the basics, everything else she should tell you about her specific needs

Advanced -

Different positions hit different spots for women. Vary them. Missionary is actually great, but there are various ways to do missionary. Each basic position probably has 5 or more sub positions.

Squirting is just piss and most women can't. I have had a few and it takes nothing special.

me_like_bikes · 2017-07-19T20:41:10+00:00

Use your words. Say "I want to do X" or "I want you to do X", then do it. If she's into it, it functions as dirty talk. If she's not, it gives her a chance to say no. Whatever you say, say it with confidence and do not be ashamed of your desires, even if she says no.

zbf · 2017-07-20T00:35:47+00:00

Apologise? Please no. It really has nothing to do with you/ anything you can change about yourself. Communication is key she needs to say what she likes.

2017-07-20T01:44:12+00:00

Learn to control your orgasm. Most girls need more than 2 minutes to come.

Title	How do I fuck her like a man, and actually INITIATE stuff?
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Date	July 19, 2017 12:59 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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