Ok, so the last few dates I went on had a fair bit of connection going on, not too awkward like I used to be. Talking for a few hours. But its more like friendliness and merely proving I'm not a serial killer rather than building attraction. I was told by a coach in a day course I did that I need to get more sexual, I guess he saw straight away that I was too timid or whatever.

But how?

Kino I can do, but it seems more friendly/comfort stuff. Like I'll take the girl's hand to ask about her rings, bracelets, stuff like that, its pretty basic stuff but again this doesnt make the girl want to bone me.

I guess 'eye fucking' is one thing (maybe doesnt fully work on its own), but turning the convo sexual, getting her to think about sex, and plant the idea in her mind that sex with me is an option she's going to have to consider, where do I begin?