I used to read this sub quite often, and I only stopped because I felt I'd learned all that I could through reading alone. This stuff was very helpful.

Anyway, I came across an interesting quote that I thought would be appreciated here. In Hemingway's short story Summer People, the narrator describes Odgar, a poor fellow who follows this girl Kate around under the guise of friendship, hoping that he'll eventually win her over. I was surprised at the level of similarity between Hemingway's words and the ideas I adopted from this sub. I'd encourage you to read the whole story - it's not long, and besides, some of us learn better through literature.

Odgar thought just love would do it. Odgar loved her enough, God knows. It was liking, and liking the body, and introducing the body, and persuading, and taking chances, and never frightening, and assuming about the other person, and always taking never asking, and gentleness and liking, and making liking and happiness, and joking and making people not afraid. And making it all right afterwards. It wasn’t loving. Loving was frightening.

Here's my own interpretation:

It was liking, and liking the body

Mutual attraction comes first, not commitment.

introducing the body

Break the touch barrier - be physically inviting.

taking chances

Risk rejection, of course.

never frightening

Make your move boldly. Being tentative makes the other person tentative.

assuming about the other person

Assume the attraction is mutual until there's evidence to the contrary.

always taking never asking

Make your move, and then see how it's received. Don't force her to take the lead by asking permission at every stage.

and gentleness and liking, and making liking and happiness, and joking and making people not afraid

Hold a fun, liberated, and comfortable frame over the entire interaction.

making it all right afterwards

[if you ever want to see her again] Be comforting and attentive after the fact - don't make her feel like she threw herself away for nothing. Don't let her feel ashamed.

It wasn't loving. Loving was frightening.

Wholehearted affection will not seal the deal, and that kind of commitment is scary anyway, at least for young men.