How do i stop getting those silent moments in conversation?

FineMescaline · 2017-10-06T20:06:00+00:00

Ask questions, and then listen CLOSELY to what your interlocutor has to say. Just be genuinely interested in the person you're talking with, and you'll come up with more and more questions.

You won't be able to completely get rid of those awkward silences, but they are not as bad as you think. And they are definitely not always your fault. Just accept the silence, take a deep breath, notice your surroundings and be natural, you'll come up with something for sure!

_GaiusMarius_ · 2017-10-06T22:48:43+00:00

enjoy the moment or realise she's boring

2017-10-06T21:26:54+00:00

Hi! I don't know if this advice will help you instantly but I guarantee will be improve your awkward silence overtime :)

Get into or develop more hobbies, read more books If you haven't already done so) and some of these things will help you to have more things to talk about.

I agree with alot of comments here about asking questions. ASK, ASK, ASK! People love to talk about themselves also it shows that you are interested :)

Good luck!

JoeHallenweck · 2017-10-06T22:56:02+00:00

Embrace the silence. Don't think it's a bad thing. Use it as a test for her, forcing her to invest. Show that you are comfortable with the silence, and she will be the one nervous, and will eventually say something (investing).

TheJovSka · 2017-10-07T02:26:44+00:00

You want them to be the one who fills in the silent moment. Then you ask them a question and let them do the talking. If you're the one trying to fill in those silent moments then you're the one trying to be a pleaser, in the other case they're the one trying to please you.

Confusion99 · 2017-10-06T20:39:44+00:00

Happens to everyone eventually.

TheLimitlessMale · 2017-10-06T21:15:14+00:00

You can always comment on the environment you two are in. Talk about the music, how cool the bar looks, how nice of a day it is, etc.

Title	How do i stop getting those silent moments in conversation?
Author	I_Main_TwistedFate
Upvotes	4
Comments	11
Date	October 6, 2017 7:20 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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