Disclaimer: At no point do I claim that I've managed to bring a girl home with me. First of all, I don't have the logistics sorted out and my game isn't good to get girls to come home with me. I personally don't have any intention to have sex with a girl from a club/bar. However, if a girl DOES approach you at a nightclub, you might be able to escalate further.

Hey guys, I was talking to some of my friends a while back, and they've mentioned that they rarely get approached at nightclubs. I don't know how much you other guys get approached at clubs, but I want to give my own tips on getting girls to come to you.

  • First of all, drop this whole Rule 1. Be attractive. Rule 2. Don't be unattractive. bullshit! Leave it on /r/tinder, where it belongs! As for looks, just be in shape, wear clothes that fit and smell good! I mean, nobody really has time to study your face since clubs are dark places.
  • Make the intention to have fun, not to get laid. Girls can sense it when guys are desperate to get laid, and they will most likely reject him. In fact, I would even go so far as to have fun while making out with girls.
  • Go with a small group, preferably 1-3 people. Any more than that and it will be too crowded. Imagine it from the girl's perspective: Why would she approach a guy from a group of 10 people?
  • Be social with everybody. This expands on the previous points. If you smile at and dance with a ton of other dudes, the girls will think of you as a chill guy.
  • Have a few beers beforehand. I would suggest to get about 2-4 beers before you head to the dancefloor. This is enough to ensure that your dance- and flirting moves are solid but not too much to make you look like a total buffoon.
  • Dance to the music. This is really difficult to explain, but just listen to the beat and move in sync with the beat. I can't really explain what I mean by this, but as stated before, a few beers will make this come naturally.
  • Make eye contact with girls for a few seconds, then just go back to dancing. By making eye contact for a few seconds, you're showing to the girl that you're not a total creep that lusts for her. You're also showing that you aren't a shy person, because you didn't break eye contact right away.
  • This one is very personal, but don't make out with girls that are really drunk. Making out with girls that are waaaay to drunk just feels like you're taking advantage of them, and I want my success with girls to be organic and fair.

TL;DR You don't need to be a male supermodel, just put some basic effort into your appearance. Make your intention to have fun, not to get laid. Go with a few people. Be social with everybody. Have 2-4 beers beforehand. Dance to the beat of the music. Make eye contact with girls for a few seconds. Don't take advantage of girls that are waaay too drunk.

Feel free to share your own tips and tricks in the comments below.