Hi all, I'm still a beginner and still consider myself not that advanced in terms of "game" (although I'm improving, I can't yet really bring myself to totally do cold approach).

On Thursday, I got the number of a girl at the bar who goes to my college. I texted her on Saturday asking what she was up to that night, and by her eagerness to meet up I could tell she was definitely interested. We met first at a pregame at a mutual friend's house where I started to kino, and then went to the bar where we actually hookup (following some kino and flirting, which I'm still learning). While we're dancing she brings me close and whispers, "You know, I'm not gonna make it easy for you to fuck me". I respond, "Who ever said I was gonna make it easy for you to fuck me either?". She laughed.

A few hours later I was in her room. Still, she was not committing towards sex (which I was fine with). I said we should just make out and that we did not have to do anything she didn't want to. The making out turned to me performing oral on her and vice versa. At this point she said that she wanted to have sex but that she didn't know if it was a good idea because she was afraid I'd see her as a slut. I simply responded that, again, it was up to her. We ended up having great sex, and she didn't feel any guilt after. I texted her the next day that I had a good time and she said to let her know if I ever wanted to hang out again.

Some observations: I don't really feel comfortable pushing it when a girl acts unsure towards having sex. I know some people here say it's simply a "shit test" when a woman says she's not sure if she wants to have sex, but to me that comes off as extremely rapey and weird. I simply responded it to it by saying that it was up to her (a little push and pull) so I guess that just not acting like you truly need sex also works

Also for some reason I somehow lasted 25 minutes and never came, and we stopped because she was too sore and felt bad that she never made me cum. I'm not too mad about this (she came from oral, and once during sex) but she felt pretty guilty about it. I don't watch porn, I'm in good shape, I haven't even ejaculated in probably around a week, the condom is a bit tight but I still get a good amount of sensation. I had the worst case of blue balls in my life, and had pain in my lower abdomen area for a few hours after. I didn't feel overly nervous either so it can't be that.