25 virgin here. During first 24 years of my life I didn't even try to get any dates, simply because I was too insecure socially. In recent months, after moving abroad I finally developed a courage to hit some social events and I got like 5 dates in half a year. In most cases I don't even get this first date, but I have like 40% success rate among girls who gave me their contact so I think it's not bad for a guy in my situation.

The scenario is always the same. I go to some bar event/dance class (still too anxious to approach in different settings), and meet a girl, which seems very interested in me (still too anxious to game girls that don't show interest). After 10 - 30 minutes of conversation I take their facebook and schedule a date within few days.

My dates seem to go rather well. I usually keep them simple and just take girls for a drink to some bar. I'm still stressed during first minutes and when I order drinks, but I always manage to make girls laugh at least few times, I keep strong eye contact and make some kino. During one of these dates I even got my first proper kiss.

All that said, I never got to a second date. I can only guess that girls can somehow feel how insecure I am about my lack of experience. Today I was flaked on by girl who was initially so interested in me, that she took my contact herself proposed to meet before I did.

Is it rare to have so little success after first dates? From posts on this sub I get an impression that getting first date almost always means either sex or second date. Do you have any suggestions for me?