I want my girlfriend to lose weight, what should I do?

Bewboi · 2014-12-28T06:40:27+00:00

Seen this situation before and I always thought the best way to handle it was for you to take the lead.

Don't tell her to join a gym, take her to the gym with you. Don't tell her to eat a salad, prepare salad for both of you for dinner.

Honestly though, if her weight really bothers you and she doesn't want to change it then maybe this isn't a great fit. Best of luck.

flatox · 2014-12-28T09:21:09+00:00

Sigh

She loves me

Not the way you think and she never will love a man the way a man loves a woman. She likes the way you make her feel. that feeling you give her. That is what she is truly in love with.

ockhams-razor · 2014-12-28T00:21:23+00:00

tapeworm in her cheerios

redpillshadow · 2014-12-28T22:53:45+00:00

The hidden-beta advice in this thread is strong.

Massive upvotes for "don't make her feel uncomfortable". She needs to lose weight, that doesn't mean he should stop eating whatever the fuck he wants. Lead her. Don't lead her by being her gay life coach. And yes you can lead by telling her that she needs to lose the rings.

drqxx · 2014-12-27T23:31:22+00:00

Start working out.

The leader of the pack determines the speed. I Started getting shreadef my gf took the hint and is getting more active and eating better.

Blacknight mode:

Honest I am no longer attracted to you as big as you've gotten.

vandaalen · 2014-12-27T23:14:14+00:00

Whatever you do: Never tell her directly. You need to use covert communication.

/u/Bewboi pointed out, that you should just take the lead, which is definetly right, but that thing alone might not work out on it's own.

I think some slight dread game is, what you need on top of it.

I'd start by decreasing the amount of sex you two have drastically. Don't initiate it yourself anymore and keep her from even blowing you off.

"Oh no baby. You know you are the sexiest girl to me, but I just don't feel like it right now."

It's very important to include the first part, about her being the sexiest woman alive. Also start commenting on real hotties, when she's with you, but in the most beta way you can imagine: "Oh look at her. You are so much sexier than her."

It's got to be a little bit over the top, but not too much. You need to find a balance, where even you yourself start to wonder if you mean it, or if you are making fun of her.

What will happen is, that her hamster will start to do the work for you. She knows she's too fat and she certainly knows that that real hottie definetly is hotter than her, but she can't shift the blame away to you being ajerk, because you actually didn't do anythink jerky.

This, compared with you making her good food and inviting her to join you in the gym, plus the decrease in sex will put the hamster on overdrive and it will ignite a nitro.

Be aware though, that you cannot do all of this in between a few days. This is a project and needs some dedication. You don't want to make her too suspicious about what's going on, and you don't want to go nuclear, since she seems to already be very submissive to you and you are teaching her and not punishing her.

Also don't stop the sex completely, just make it obviously less. Like if you had it two times a day on average, then switch to three times a week or such.

You can also buy her some nice lingerie you like to see on her, if she behaves well and goes to the gym and follows your dieting advice for some time. Buy it in the size you wish her to be though, and pretend that you totally though that this was her size now. Pretend that you cannot give it back, because it was a special offer.

Kose2kose · 2014-12-28T00:28:02+00:00

fuck that tell her she looks a little chubby. Make her feel like she needs to prove something to you. Make her feel less-than. make her feel insecure so she pleases you more

GentleGiant350 · 2014-12-29T06:27:04+00:00

She loves you for now. That can change.

You are not the only one with a cock. Don't rely on that.

She could blow another dude three times a day just as easily.

Times ten on "lead by example."

Best case, it works. Worst case, it doesn't and when newly single you hits the dating market you'll be higher smv.

_fappycamper · 2014-12-31T16:43:20+00:00

Just working out is not enough. If she doesn't changer her diet, it won't help her. On the other hand if you get her to lose the weight her attraction level will drop, as her SMV approaches yours.

[deleted] · 2014-12-27T22:49:17+00:00

Search function.

moderatorsAREshit · 2014-12-28T00:03:23+00:00

I wouldn't come looking for advice on this here. Most of us would just say, next.

Anyone that doesn't say next is being dishonest and is bad advice.

Title	I want my girlfriend to lose weight, what should I do?
Author	StarDestinyGuy
Upvotes	16
Comments	38
Date	December 27, 2014 10:43 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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