Can insecure guy (22) be non-needy?

VDKay · 2018-06-05T16:33:57+00:00

Introverted is not bad. Sensitive is. In order to be non-needy you need to desensitize yourself. i.e., game a girl like you don't even care about her.

Of course this is not a switch you can flip, but rather is built with experience. Mainly negative experience. That is, if you go through, say, 10 approaches, or, better, 10 escalations (reveal your feelings) and get rejected 10 times, you will see that it doesn't matter how it makes you feel in the end. Your 11th approach will be "just for the lolz"... and probably work out because you stopped being needy.

muse933277 · 2018-06-05T20:37:40+00:00

Being needy on a fundamental level means that you are basing your worth and value on the approval from women, when you place a higher importance on what women think of you than what you think of yourself. The key to being non-needy is to not base your happiness on the approval from women, but on what you think of yourself.

Neediness is a mindset. To be non-needy, you need to change your mindset. Here are several ways to naturally become more non-needy:

-Develop a life for yourself.

- When you're meeting a woman, instead of wondering whether or not she will like you, wonder if you will like her.

- Instead of looking for her approval, decide whether to give her yours.

- Only be interested in dating people who are interested in dating you.

- Instead of trying to come up with the perfect date, you could decide that if a woman likes you for you, you don't need a perfect date.

- Only make time for people who make time for you. Don't waste you time on people who arne't going to give you the time.

- As soon as she rejects you, be civil about it, then move on to the next girl.

traceviral · 2018-06-05T16:39:26+00:00

i don’t think being introverted or being sensitive is bad. i’m both of those things without a doubt and i have always been able to communicate well with my partner and take constructive criticism because he is aware that i am sensitive and introverted. i honestly think it depends a lot on who you end up with/who you’re going after and what their traits are/how they act.

i think the best thing you could do is just try to be open to improvement and feedback from your partner on the relationship wether is is sexual or not. communicate communicate communicate

silverbullet86 · 2018-06-06T17:23:10+00:00

Of course you can be non needy. I know it seems like such a far feat, but you can do it over time.

You've made a big step by exposing this about yourself and wanting to improve yourself to become your strongest self (most men out there struggle with this but will forever live their life never stepping up).

The deep root cause is often feeling that you are not good enough, not worthy enough. I struggled with this for a long time, and it takes time to reprogram yourself and reimage yourself to a man that you are proud to be.

Check out this powerful video from RSD Max https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sn0DyTtQDfQ&list=PLLP5aP44wPEHySQfR-hqKsSo0G58mfjM3&index=11&t=0s

I think you will find this VERY helpful!

Title	Can insecure guy (22) be non-needy?
Author	depressedjoecz
Upvotes	10
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Date	June 5, 2018 4:25 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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