I want to understand what kind of girl I'm dating.

secret_barber · 2015-01-09T19:06:31+00:00

Pain in the ass.

fnordsnord · 2015-01-09T19:51:46+00:00

Sadly, women don't fit into the categories we would like them to. My own wife is a self-declared feminist with a career, but we've made it work for 25 years this November.

More male friends than female friends is a red flag. PROUD of more male friends than female friends is a red flag. Lots of beta orbiters is yet ANOTHER red flags.

But red flags are only part of the picture. There are also green lights? Is there sex? Is the sex good? Are you sure she's faithful? What comes first, you or her career? Does she have a good job, or a career?

And there are more things to consider.

kingofpoplives · 2015-01-09T19:31:01+00:00

Sounds like a validation addict, who for the moment, seems to be sweating you.

Red_Invictus · 2015-01-09T20:11:20+00:00

She boasts that she has more male friends than female friends.

Why is this something worth boasting about? It's not. The fact that she thinks it is sounds arrogant in and of itself.

She tells me that she has only one girl best friend and all other best friends are male.

Once again, cool story bro-ette. Obviously, she is thirsty for validation and beta orbiters.

Basically in a nutshell, just echoing what the other guys are saying, she sounds like a vapid attention whore. And in complete honesty, I kind of feel bad for the idea of girls like her, she's bragging about the fact that she probably has zero real friends. Her betas are going to get tired of the push and no pull over time, the one way emotion tampon usage from her, and she will have to keep rotating fresh orbiters as time goes on. Once again, this is a situation of a superficial girl with no real friendships. More girlfriends would be healthy and do her some good, let me guess though, she's one of those that says she "hates drama and other girls?"

This is immature behavior at best, and red flag behavior at worst, she has no loyalty to her friends because she has no real friends to speak of. You are taking a risk putting your trust in her in making her an LTR.

Keep her as a plate or hard next.

BlackHeart89 · 2015-01-09T20:45:33+00:00

Not LTR material.

If she doesn't have enough sense not to "brag" about how many guys she's hanging around, she isn't LTR material.

Then again, she could be shit testing you. Because really... can someone be that stupid? I don't know how long you two have been talking, but don't rush it. Give it time so you can really see who she is. Plate her.

But one thing is for certain, if she's actually hanging out with guys all the time, then its a no go. At the very least, she would need to stop that before even considering a relationship.

[deleted] · 2015-01-09T20:52:30+00:00

She sucks at "politics" and is socially inept but probably at the very least pretty.

You can be a idiot and men will befriend you if you are a woman.

Socially inept girls are a no go for me when it comes to LTR. But in the short term she will be quite fun and naive.

Cyralea · 2015-01-09T21:05:51+00:00

How old are you guys? If she's got few female friends it's often because she's a shitty person. The male friends are more than likely orbiters; guys who only put up with her because they're physically attracted to her.

I suspect that you guys are young though. She could just be a stage-5 clinger.

gucciswahgg · 2015-01-10T00:27:55+00:00

I know you didn't ask for advice about yourself, but you come off as very needy. Like you're worried already about her attraction to you.

I would argue that your issue is more your insecurity than your worry about what kind of girl your dating.

You're nervousness shows. And she will leave you until you stop analyzing every fucking thing she says and start not giving a fuck

[deleted] · 2015-01-10T03:19:31+00:00

She's doing two things, the first thing is qualifying herself to you; that she is desirable because of the male attention she gets. The second is blatantly showing you her excessive need for male validation.

Both aren't great, and show insecurity. Insecurity is bad because when you guys fight, there is a good chance she will console with one of her male "friends" and "I dunno lol we only kissed I was sad".

For LTR, avoid these types of girls. They NEEEEDDD male validation at all times; which is a symptom of a deeper problem. This is speaking from experience, I knowly LTR-ed a girl like this because she was cool, and the sex was great; predictably did not end well.

Title	I want to understand what kind of girl I'm dating.
Author	imdow123
Upvotes	5
Comments	14
Date	January 9, 2015 6:58 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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