The feeling of regret hurts more than rejection

RaoulDuke1 · 2018-08-12T13:36:29+00:00

hundred percent. michael scott tried to tell us.

Kissofdeathxoxo · 2018-08-12T13:09:44+00:00

Don't beat yourself up! It's fine there are 4 billion girls on this planet... (Don't know the actual number) I missed so many escalation windows with women, just realize where you messed up, Go talk to another hottie or a average chick to understand social Dynamics first. Remember that hottie she is probably getting approch by so 4 to 8 guys a day (varies on location) get back out there and approch if she gives you signals, if you to connect on some physical level. Etc eye contact, if you both catch each others eyes say, hey I felt this immence connection just now, I'm ___ Your name? Spend 2-3 minutes getting to know her, ask for her number, I never direct approch I open from the side, it's much more comfortable for women. Then follow up with her in 2-3 hours saying "hey I'm that one guy you kept looking at with devilish intent" It's john save my number.

uniquan · 2018-08-12T16:11:58+00:00

Realization is the first step.

Hegemon1984 · 2018-08-12T16:59:56+00:00

Oh brother, let me tell you a story.

About two years ago, I had a friend named Nicole. Now, I personally wasn't attracted to her, but many men were due to her gigantic ass.

We left a popular nightclub in Denver, CO called Beta Nightclub. We ran into this man and his wife and three HOT AF girls from Florida. They were visiting for the Summer.

The man and his wife, a sexy Guatemalan native, decide to invite me, Nicole, and the three Flordians back to his apartment. The girls were there to party. It was me, the husband and literally five girls.

So, one of the girls decides to remove her bra after getting fucked up. All the girls decide to do the same thing. We've got four topless women, except Nicole.

The guy and I decided to speed this shit up and go full on naked. What happens next, is one of the girls decides to flirt with me, and starts grabbing my dick.

But then

THEN.

I fucking pussy out.

Every girl was willing and was anticipating a mass orgy. One of them even states they were.

To cut the story short, as 6-7 am hits, we all leave his apartment and go back to our homes.

So yeah, looking back at that I vowed to never, ever, ever pussy out again. To this day, thinking about that moment gives me fucking PTSD, yet also drives me to never miss an opportunity.

Don't be me, brother. You will wholeheartedly regret it and beat yourself up for missing the opportunity of a lifetime.

Intrafear · 2018-08-12T20:10:35+00:00

Internalize this feeling and use it to push yourself to step out of your comfort zone. There will be many more opportunities like this so don't beat yourself up. You're putting too much pressure on yourself in trying to be perfect. Alot of it is changing your mindset.

I suggest working towards not being outcome dependent. Start with a simple hello and go from there. Whatever happens, happens. A good way to work towards this is to say hello with everyone, not just girls. Start with friends/family, then acquaintances/teachers, then work your way towards strangers, etc. Eventually it will become second nature.

DID_IT_FOR_YOU · 2018-08-12T13:50:54+00:00

I wouldn’t think about it. “Gorgeous” women are rarely single and I doubt they would be in the mood to be approached after they are tired from a flight. I know for myself all I’m thinking about is I can’t wait to get my bags and get home/to the hotel.

A lot of stars would have to have been aligned for you to have the chance to make something happen.

You would also have to have great “game” to have her overlook a random stranger trying to talk with her at baggage claim and even get her number.

It’s just not a good location in my opinion and so things are set against you.

Also as others have said there are millions, billions of other women out there. A random woman you haven’t even spoken to, no matter how pretty, isn’t something to regret over.

Now if this had been a girl you had a crush on in high school (interacted with) and just coincidently crossed paths with then I could understand.

Just move on and meet other women. You’ll forget this random in no time.

Xanarxses · 2018-08-12T16:15:21+00:00

You're not gonna die and your dick won't fall off. Don't get your panties in a bunch. Happens to fucking everyone. I failed to approach a girl back in junior high before I could even fathom the concept of pickup.

Oh and get used to it because it's not the last time. Trust me.

1fastman1 · 2018-08-13T00:44:06+00:00

Fucking this, i was at this con rave at an anime convention and i was dancing with this 10/10 girl. She was so fun to dance with and i tried to get her snap but there was no connection in the rave but I thought it went through, only until later I realized my mistake but by then it was too late

Always make sure you get their contacts

Flintblood · 2018-08-13T03:09:17+00:00

I will always regret not acting on promising opportunities more than I will ever regret or think about past (approach) rejections.

chronosthetitan · 2018-08-12T22:01:46+00:00

I agree, a famous hockey player once said you miss 100% of the shots you don't take.

intercitty · 2018-08-12T22:55:42+00:00

Im with you this weekend that was all I could think of. Regret worst than failure. Started convo with 2 beautiful brazilians one didnt speak english. The other was married. White chick on the beach.. she had a boyfriend but you know what? I didnt get the cold shoulder OR a weird look that I was so damn afraid of this whole time. They were amazingly open and happy to interact with a stranger nonetheless. Now I know :)

1vibe · 2018-08-13T03:57:05+00:00

This is it exactly.

LimitedContributor · 2018-08-13T15:49:04+00:00

It really is. As much as a bitch possible rejection is. You may never see her again my dude.

2018-08-13T17:40:01+00:00

Facts. This weekend, I didn't talk to this super cute girl and her female friend standing in front of me at a concert I was at with a good friend of mine. Hurts bad, because cute girls with good taste in music are a rarity. Hurts way more than the girl I met at the library last week who gave me her number, but didn't text back. Hurts more than the girl on the street who rejected me with the boyfriend excuse. Hurts more than the former coworker who rejected my invite for coffee. Etc...

2018-08-12T18:49:40+00:00

70% try 97%

Flintblood · 2018-08-12T20:08:24+00:00

I was driving back home when I saw three beautiful female hitchhikers on the road, I pick em up and as we’re driving they invite me to stay over with them in their tent for the night lol....I pussy out and say I got to get home and drop them at their campsite...fckn rekt! Thinking back on it really gets to me lol

Title	The feeling of regret hurts more than rejection
Author	spahan
Upvotes	331
Comments	55
Date	August 12, 2018 12:53 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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